User post: Mom Meltdown -- Is It Just Me????

Please read my blog the mother's curse fact or fiction. Not only did I have a meltdown, I went nuclear. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I can tell you, the only reason I haven't slapped my teenager's mouth off of their face is because I can't find the right color thread to sew them back on with.YUK YUK.
Hang in there and pray really really really hard.

Boy,i thought i had it bad i have a 16,11,7,and 3 year old and my two oldest are boys and they fight and the oldest he so smart mouth.You
tell him to stop he just keep going.So you do deserve some free time to your-self and if you should need to yell to get your point across than do so.Just know that God is all ways their to pick you up when your down
just call on him for strength.

I sure didn't treat my mother like that but she always trained me not to expect all that much from her; I knew she had to have her own life and she didn't always spare my feelings. Your kids are too old for you to be running for them all the time. Sounds like they are kids are self-centered and don't see you as a person. Stop doing so much from them, make them rely on themselves more. Be there for them as a source of emotional support but don't be their slave. Tell them to get jobs babysitting, doing whatever. Tell them it's time to grow up.

Its not just you. There is such a lack of respect from teens its terrible. I have a 22, 14, 5, all boys at home and I also have meltdowns it gets overwhelming and you just want to quit! I ve been there at least weekly for the past 10 years(at the breaking point that is) believe it or not when they are older they will realize everything you did was for them, and then things will get better. Hang in and take a day every week just for you. Dont compromise you're worth it.

You should never feel bad for expressing yourself. You expressed it in a wrong way and you should apologize for how you handeled the situation but you shouldn't apologize for how you were feeling. You need to not do so much for your kids, I know that sounds harsh but it will work trust me. Explain to your children that you dont have to do anyhting but feed and cloth them, so all the nice things you do like run them around but them that 80 dollar jacket or whatever you don't have to you do it because you love them and want nothing but the best. One day when your bending over backwards killing yourself for them just stop what ever it is your doing and ask them if there considering how this is making you feel. Reexplain to them that you do things for them because you like to not because it is obligated in some parent handbook. Oh and if my child said that because I went out and some fun for once that they felt I was abandoning them I would have poped right on there mouth.

I dont have a teen (yet) but my mom still has four at home and I think it might just be the teenage factor, not you... I think you are entitled to expressing your feelings especially since a 16 and 17 year old should be able to understand... And you are more than entitled to go out and have a drink and take in a movie! Especially since it sounds like you dont have a life outside of them! Good luck and take care of you so you can take care of them.

Thank u so much everyone. Some days its wonderful being a mother and other days I dont think they can pay me enuf....lol I learned within the last year that my children are spoiled more than I realized. They are so wonderful, with the same big hearts as their mother without the world experiences (good and bad). I feel much better after reading the responses here. I feel so alone sometimes and although I dont wish anyone the hard times I go thru its realllllly nice to know I'm not alone. Thank you all

Maybe you are giving them too much that they expect you to do what they want when they want it..teenagers do not seem to get the fact that they have it so good compared to what we went through when we were kids. Sometimes I just wish we could warp back to those days and drop them off there for awhile then maybe they will appreciate what we do and give up for the sake of our children. As for you mom maybe the answer is to only do what IS necessary for awhile, let the other stuff go or make them find a way to do it on their own. Maybe then they will understand. Until then I wish you the best of luck!