User post: New moms stay in homes for postpartum recovery and get pampered

I wish I had it when I had my son.
I would do it in a heartbeat.

I really did not know how I felt at first but looking back at my pregnancies, I can see where it was needed. All three times my mother came up for the first week. For my third son, I had both my mother and mother in law. I remember feeling over whelmed. The spacing of my boys is very close. After the third I remember freaking out, feeling panicked. I felt like I wasn't going to be able to take care of my children. And now that we know post partum depression is real, I feel this is necessary. Our bodies go through so much during this time. Without proper care and rest can make you crazy.

wish i coulda found something like this when my kids were born. i had no one to help me with anything. both of my ex husbands are as useful as wart on a hogs butt. i had the mothers in law fron the pitts of the underworld and my own mom was hundres of miles away. i sure coulda used a zen type anything.

I kind of understand if you don't have the support at home I guess it would be necessary. During my delivery my pubic bone separated into 4 cm and I was in the hospital for a week. When I left I came home on a walker. I was blessed to have the most amazing boyfriend and family, there was no possible way I could have cared for my son if they wouldn't have been there. My sister would stay the night with us to help out when my boyfriend had to work and go to school and my mother came over every single day that I was on leave to help take care of us and make sure we were ok. If I didn't have them I would've needed a place like that, b/c I was on the walker for a couple of months.

wendy g

Sounds similar to my story - My son was 3 when our second son was born via c-section. It was scheduled so that helped a lot with the healing process. I went food shopping just 5 days after our son was born ( I was just in a very good mental and physical place - I felt great but probably did too much and refused help ) As for chasing the first child around.. You do what you can do when you can do it. Your first born will survive the process of a second child being brought into the home. Yeah, it's a change but just like everything else in life you roll with the punches and move on! You have time for both children - It's possible. Things are not as traumatic as people make it out to be! You will be fine :)

the mother is 'sitting the month'. It's chinese culture to rest for a month after delivery.1 of the perks of having an extended family.

I think it's a lovely idea but I know how important bonding with a newborn is not only for the mom but also for the dad! I agree with pp that a postpartum doula is a terrific happy medium. I don't have local family so any "help" is in the form of houseguests that stay a week and aren't interested in doing anything but holding the new baby! I think I ended up being a postpartum doula to my mom when she came to "help" with our kids, lol!

I'd do it! I needed a lot of recovery time after my kid was born and it was so hard to take care of a newborn when I was so tired and in so much pain, etc. Maybe not that long, but at least a couple of weeks.

I think it's a wonderful idea! Especially for a first child.

Excellent idea only here in this crazy country do we give so little respect to the process of giving birth,whether it is surgically or vaginally. Women need respect and help and support through this process and sadly in our go-go culture women are expected and indeed expect themselves to give birth and just carry on as if nothing had happened. Did any one ever consider how the rates of PPD might change if we gave support to all of our new moms?I say this as the mom of four, all by C-section including a set of twins who breast fed all of them exclusively for years.

I would check in and stay for as long as they would have me.

I think it's a great idea! In my case, my in-laws were always taking care of the baby, I don't remember being talked to, much less pampered. But in the nurses in the center or hospital maybe helped out a little with being pampered, we wouldn't need the extra time.

I didn't have any help the first week after giving birth and I never got any problems with hormons.I was the only one who woke up at night for 1 year.My husband never did , neither my mother in law.I didn't want her to do it.My son was really nice baby , but I needed my mother in law to help , because I started working when he was 2 months.It was so nice.Now he is almost 3 and it got much harder after his first birthday.We want another one really soon and if we have I hope my mother in law comes again :)).I can not stay away from my family to recover I prefer to stay in the ''jungle'' lol.

wow, to me that is extreme, but I had a "normal" delivery, not overly depressed or anything. It was just me and my husband, no mom or anything. Did have some support from a church group, but other than that, I did get up after a week and cook and clean. I am just too independent to ask for help or seek help like that.

wow! i had no idea these postpartum homes existed. i had a very hard time after my son was born. i was so worried about him being okay that i would forget to eat and i would call my mother in law to come over and watch him so i could shower. lol. My husband helped me so much. It was very hard for me, but i can't imagine doing it without my husband. He played the greatest role in my recovery.

Some guy will be mad because he can't be in there with the woman. Probably one of those guys that say "We're Pregnant"

for all the moms on here boosting about all the crap they had to do after having a baby and not needing any help, GOOD FOR YOU! the majority of us did exactly the same thing but the point we are getting at is that something like this would be nice for a couple of weeks to recuperate after birth and be able to rest and bond with baby before getting back into the daily grind of life :)

I think that's a nice idea, but I wouldn't want the older siblings to be neglected. Maybe I could go for a few weeks of rest and recovery, but I think I would feel bad about leaving older brothers or sisters at home/ with family.

My mother in law came from New York to Califorina to help me a month before I had my son and a month after. Now I was up and about pretty good but it was SO nice to have a whole week off. I did nothing. I think it really helped me heal mentally and physcically.

I wouldn't like it for myself I liked to go home immediately following my deliveries. my husband helped me out with our children. But even though this sounds like a wonderful place to go after having a new baby I don't think it would be for me. There's nothing in the world like being at home with your family to me. And a new baby is so special.