User post: Piercings on teens - Yes or No?

Okay so I really want my tongue pierced, and I have wanted it for about two and a half years now.

The problem is, my parents are completely gainst it and would never let me get it done, so they tell me to wait until I am eighteen. I can wait and I was going to get it done just before high school graduation, so that the swelling is down at graduation, but I really want it and I dont want to wait anymore. Also, my parents said I could get it at 18 but recently decided (I guess) that I can't get it as long as im under their roof. Thing is, my dad is a bully and won't even listen to me without getting mad, and my mom doesn't want me to chip my teeth after she spent so much money on braces. I have offered to pay for any financial things that have to do with it and she still won't budge. Don't even let me get into how much I've tried to convince them.

I have a 4.0 GPA and im going to do a completely advanced program next year so that college is less expensive for me and them. I'm a good kid but they never let me do anything I ask for. The only reason I have a facebook is because I went behind their backs and made one. They won't let me get my ears pierced again and they make me do a sport despite participating in my schools haunted house and plays/ musicals as much as possible. I don't know how to get through to them without just shaking them and telling them it's a new generation and ideals are different. I know the connotations that are supposed to be linked to them (oral sex) but I didn't even think about that and when I found out I literally said "eww." infections can be bad but not if you actually pay attention to them and really serious infections basically only happen if one has a preexisting medical condition that might cause that.

I don't have to get a job until after it is completely healed (we've planned out the timeline for all this) and I would be able to wear a retainer to hide it. Virtually no one would notice it and I don't see why it's such a problem. They think that I could be inflicting something bad on myself when they both smoke and drink at least once daily! I think that's kind of hypocritical of them to not even give me a chance to prove myself to them.

My only piercing right now is my ears which i had to get done five times, which worries them, but the had me do it with a piercing gun (which is really bad news if you didn't know: it crushes tissue and can't be cleaned), and once I was old enough and responsible enough to clean my ears myself the piercing went perfectly and I haven't had any problems since (2 years ago). I've been researching for all this time and I've found all the problems and ways to avoid them but I need parenal permission unless I'm a legal adult.

They think I want this piercing because my best friend of 11 years got her lip pierced (snakebites) but I've wanted it before the thought of snakebites even crossed my friend's mind.

I've looked at a lot of things online and how to find a good piercer and such and mostly we just need to make sure they're experiened and sanitary. I have a very high pain tolerance so the piercing wouldn't hurt I'm pretty sure and where I live there are a lot of people with piercings so there must be many reputable piercers around here right?

Please help me find a way to convince them! If I could get this piercing I would be so happy

Okay so also, I've read a lot of these parenting articles and you wanna know what? They suck. NO TEEN WANTS TO TALK TO THEIR PARENTS UNLESS THEY WANT SOMETHING OR ARE IN VERY RARE FORM, so don't try to talk to us please, we dont appreciate it. My stepmom only talks to her son when they go on vacation together or she is calling him for dinner or something like that and you want to know what? It works! He's a great kid and really kind and the worst thing he does is probably to be a little lazy and drink energy drinks a lot! He's still interested in sports and friends and he's teaching himself to play the guitar. I think that if a lot of parents acted like this kids would be a lot better. Don't be laid back, have limits but just leave them be and most kids can find their way on their own. ... More