6 Things You Never Want to Hear from Your Partner

Posted by Demetri Raftopoulos for BounceBack.com

Certain things are better left unheard. It would be easier for a police officer to read you your Miranda Rights or for someone to ask you "any last words?" You would probably feel safer in those times of duress. The dog house is even a better place to be.

In relationships, certain phrases practically sign a death sentence for you, indicative towards what will become of your relationship immediately. Here is a look at what you do not want to hear from your significant other and what it really means.

I'm Fine

They are not fine. Whatever is bothering them or whatever you did to piss them off is still lingering. They are most definitely not over it. So in this instance, don't take their word for it and go about your day. I'm fine really means:

"I'm still incredibly mad at you for texting your ex but I am going to hide it further by saying 'I'm fine' so we don't fight anymore, once again throwing more of our problems under the rug, waiting for them all to explode in our face one day like a damn jack-in-the-box."

We Need to Talk

Oh boy, the grand daddy of them all. Be afraid. Be very afraid. Unfortunately, they don't want to tell you about their day or something funny that recently happened to them. They are about to break up with you, tell you the relationship isn't working out, admit that they are cheating on you or the other manifold ways there is to drop a boat load of bad news onto your significant other…or there lack of. We need to talk really means:

"I'm breaking up with you and instead of saving us both the trouble and agony and just end it, I am going to give you a laundry list of fabricated reasons why this isn't working out, to try and make myself feel a little less remorseful and you a little less shitty about being dumped."

It's Not You. It's Me.

This one is too easy but extremely comical at the same time. What this really means is:

"No…no…no. It definitely is you. It has nothing to do with me."

I've Been Busy

No you haven't. You just don't want to talk to him/her. Unfortunately, there really is no easy way to admit that to someone without completely crushing their self-esteem, so we let them off easy by telling them we are swamped at work and that our grandmother needs help getting up her flight of stairs or you had to take the dog to the vet eight times. You probably don't even have a dog. And then after we have reassured them with our own farfetched old wives tales, we go back to being "busy" and ignore them for another week or at least until our conscience kicks back in. I've been busy really means:

"I haven't been busy at all. I can just think of fifteen other things I would rather be doing off the of my head and I am too chicken to just tell you that in the nicest way possible."

If nice even exists in this situation, that is.

I Usually Disappear From Time to Time

Oh, my favorite. Nobody has kidnapped you. You haven't been sucked into some time continuum vortex like you're in an episode of The Twilight Zone. No one has recently seen your face on a milk carton. You have been in the same place that you have been every other day of your life. I usually disappear really means:

"I just want my space and be with you at the same time so instead of telling you that, I am going to ignore you days on end, drop you the occasional text of reassuring you that I am still alive and still into you/like you blah blah and use my 'disappearing acts' as some excuse to hide that I have a tough time letting people close past all the hype and bravado, risking actually sounding like a human being in the process."

Don't Take It Personally

I hate to break it to you. They are going to take it personally. It's like adding no offense before or after completely insulting someone. You might as well lend someone your umbrella and take it back from them as soon as it begins to rain. Don't take it personally really means:

"I'm about to tell you something really mean but felt like adding in 'don't take it personally' to try and spare your feelings and so you know I'm really not trying to be mean."

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