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    7 Lessons Kids Can Learn from NOT Making the Team

    Last year my daughter Casey made the freshman volleyball team. The next night, I was talking to several mothers whose daughters did not make the team; they felt that everyone should have been put on the squad, a concept that made me bristle. And I told them so. And I continue to stand by my conviction, even after my daughter didn't make the JV squad this year. While I wanted to email the coach to tell her how good Casey was and inform her of the very grave mistake she was making, I did not. Why? Because not everyone deserves to make the team. Now here's the part that might blow your mind a little. I maintain that not making the team was good for Casey, providing 7 invaluable (albeit painful) life lessons. - By Rene Syler

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      I told Casey her father and I would do what we needed to do to help her succeed. If that meant spending money on volleyball camp or whatever else, we were willing to do it but that she had to take ownership. That meant asking questions of the coach to assess her performance, doing the research and presenting to us the camp that would help her most. Her chances of success are greater if she ... more 
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      It's Not A Dead End, It's A Detour
      I told Casey her father and I would do what we needed to do to help her succeed. If that meant spending money on volleyball camp or whatever else, we were willing to do it but that she had to take ownership. That meant asking questions of the coach to assess her performance, doing the research and presenting to us the camp that would help her most. Her chances of success are greater if she owns the solution.
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