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    The “Self-Help” Books We Wouldn’t Touch with a 10-Foot Pole

    By Tara Rasmus, Refinery29
    Ok, so, can we talk about something? Self-help dating books for women. Why. Are. They. So. Dumb? Self-help books can have their place, and can be an effective method for finding some perspective and self-awareness without shelling out major dough for a therapist (or annoying your friends to death with endless discussions of your problems). But, come on. Make Every Man Want You? Why Men Love Bitches? The Power of the P*ssy?! We just…we can't.

    These books treat women like we're all weepy doormats and the only "problem" we have that needs solving is the lack of a man in our lives. Not to mention the fact that they treat relationships like they're something for women to "figure out," rather than an equal partnership that requires effort from both parties involved - because that would just be lunacy, obvi.

    So, without further ado, here is our round-up of the worst, cheesiest, most laughable self-help books for women. The scariest part of this, in our minds, is that these books are bestsellers, meaning that smart, logical, well-educated, beautiful women actually buy into this junk.

    True, there may be some lessons to be learned in a few of these books, but the fact that they're packaged in these generalized, insulting, heart-cat-and-lipstick-adorned covers is ridiculous, and we won't have it. We're also not sure what's worse: The male authors telling us what's "wrong" with us, or the female authors who just further ridiculous gender typecasting by writing this drivel.

    Click through, have a good laugh, and amaze with us over the fact that yes, these books actually exist.


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      Why Men Love Bitches, by Sherry Argov

      This is what bothers us about this blockbuster: no woman should aspire to be a bitch. You know why? The true bitches we know are bitchy because they are insecure and unhappy. Yes, it is important to stick to your values in a relationship, know what you want, and know what to ask for. But in our minds, finding that strength does not require you to get in touch with your inner bitch. ... more 
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      Why Men Love Bitches, by Sherry Argov

      This is what bothers us about this blockbuster: no woman should aspire to be a bitch. You know why? The true bitches we know are bitchy because they are insecure and unhappy. Yes, it is important to stick to your values in a relationship, know what you want, and know what to ask for. But in our minds, finding that strength does not require you to get in touch with your inner bitch. Nor does asking for what you want make you a bitch, any more than being kind and accommodating makes you a doormat.

      In our minds, finding love shouldn't require you to change your personality. If you're a sassy, outspoken lady, your man should appreciate that just as much as if you're the caring, nurturing type. Your love should fit you and your partner, not the other way around. less 

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