Rumor has it that Katy Perry and John Mayer are officially "off"… again. Many saw this coming, even though the two had recently rekindled their broken romance. As Mayer has a reputation for loving (and leaving) the ladies, the writing was on the wall. Unfortunately, most of us don't have millions of people to warn us of the repercussions of renewing a relationship with an ex. How can you avoid making some of the mistakes that Katy might have made? Observe.
Mistake #1: Accepting words without actions.
"I'm sorry." Those are such wonderful words to hear from a former lover who has apparently embraced the error of his ways. Beware. Those words are often filled with promises about how things are going to be different. According to sources, Katy gave John another chance based on promises that he'd try to change his ways. His intentions may have been in earnest. But it usually takes time and consistency in order to tell if someone has learned from his mistakes.
Mistake #2: Rushing in too fast...
The second time around, it was reported that Perry offered Mayer her house key. Such a bold moves denotes the kind of commitment for which he apparently wasn't ready. Taking your relationship up a notch (or three) immediately after a break-up often smells of desperation. Sometimes it's best to tread lightly instead of biting off more than you can chew.
Mistake #3: Falling for "I miss you."
After months of pining over your (flawed) relationship, it's only natural to become flustered when you hear the words "I miss you" escape his lips. But it is literally impossible to miss what you never had. In other words, all the things you discovered were missing from your relationship will probably still be absent after the "make up" phase has passed. Katy and John may not have had several months under their belts. But it's likely that John's wooing style caused more harm than good.
Mistake #4: Confusing lust with…
everything else.
Sex with an ex can often be comforting. It might have been the one functional element of your relationship. But it's extremely difficult for people to separate the physical from the emotional. This is especially true with fairly new couples, who often confuse a strong sexual connection with a deeper personal one. Jumping right back into an intimate relationship might give him the impression that all is forgiven, especially if you forgot to heed Mistake #1.
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