Bad dates are pretty miserable, but I'm one of those people who tries to find the positive in crappy situations, and a bad date certainly fits along those lines. I've had my fair share -- a guy once told me I reminded him in a positive way of his ex that he was still in love with. Awesome and creepy; thanks buddy. I guess they all can't cause giddy feelings, but at least you'll develop an incredible urge to make a run for it. So what exactly are the positives that you can get from a really bad date?
It's one person closer to the right one
Dating is a numbers game, which means although it was a bad date, it's one more person closer to the right one. This is especially appropriate if this guy has been in your life for awhile and you haven't been on a date with each other until then, but you've been wondering if he's for you. Now, you can move onto the next one.
A bad date makes for a great story
I'll admit it; there were times when a bad date wasn't even over before I texted a friend from the bathroom and said how horrible it was. I really needed to just talk to someone that didn't make me want to put my head through a wall. Whenever you decide to recount your bad date, it's going to make a really great story. There were a couple of guys who I had bad dates with, and when we reconnected years later and those dates came up, we were actually able to laugh about it.
It makes you look at other guys differently
The one thing I noticed, from myself and from what others tell me, is that the guys you go on bad dates with make you more willing to give other guys a chance who you may have previously been unsure about. Suddenly, those guys are elevated up a bit; their good qualities stand out more and their negative qualities don't seem so bad when they're compared to guys from bad dates.
You learn more about what you want and don't want
I think one of the best things you can get from bad dates is that you learn more about what you do and don't want. You'll realize new, positive qualities that are really important to you and the negative qualities that are absolute deal breakers. It will help you pick up on them more quickly with the next new guy who comes into your life.
Most of us are going to have bad dates at some point, but the key is to not let them get us down. Through all the bad dates and jerks, there are going to be fantastic men who will take you on great dates worthy of being excitedly recounted to your friends. Keep a positive attitude and they'll come into your life sooner than later.
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