Longing for Mr. Right and tired of settling for Mr. Right Now? You are not alone. The desire to find your soul mate crosses cultural, generational and gender lines. This strong, natural drive to fall in love and live with your perfect mate has inspired books, songs and moves. Waiting for that kismet moment makes some people anxious and unhappy. Unfortunately, the wait is part of the process but don't waste time. Before you begin your search, start with a plan.
According to Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway, author of "Rituals for Love and Romance: Attract Your Soulmate with Ceremony and Self-love," your quest should begin with a good description of who you're looking for. Once you know what the perfect (well, perfect for you) guy looks like, you'll know how to find him. Know yourself; know what's important to you. Don't get preoccupied about his physical appearance, focus on the deeper characteristics you want in a man. Then you can begin your search.
Try something new. I'm not a huge fitness person but I love to try new exercise styles like Zumba--even pole dancing. One night after learning a few tricks on a pole, I walked out of the exercise class and met the man of dreams. Noticing which business I stepped out of, he made a flirty comment and I happily flirted back. From that day to this one, (that was fifteen years ago) we've been together. I'm so glad I was brave enough to try something new.
Enjoy your life. Hiding out in your apartment when you come home from work is not the way to meet your soulmate. Unless your dream guy is a building manager. Get out and enjoy life. Walk through a farmer's market, hit the library, visit your friends. You could even find Mr. Right on a run through the park.
Improve yourself. Make your life, and yourself, ready for a relationship by improving yourself. Take that extra class, learn a new language, take an etiquette course. Find ways to be a better you and you'll find him in no time.
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