Pet owners don't get a dog with the expectation that it's going to help them in a relationship; however, having a pet can do exactly that. Owning a dog can actually help you gain perspective and learn how to be better in a relationship and in general as a person. If you're thinking of getting a dog or already have one, there are a surprising amount of lessons a dog can help you learn that you can apply to your dating life.
Looks aren't everything
There are some dogs that aren't as physically attractive as others, but that doesn't mean they wouldn't be wonderful to have in your life. I know some women who won't even give a guy the time of day if he doesn't fit their checklist in terms of appearance. You obviously have to be physically attracted to a guy if you want to date him, but don't automatically push him to the side if he doesn't match up with everything you want in the looks department.
Opening your heart is possible
It's incredible how much a person can open their heart to an animal while being so reluctant to do the same when it comes to another human being. It's an amazing feeling when you open your heart and let love in, so despite the risk that's involved with doing that with a guy, go for it anyway. You may be surprised at what can happen.
Always greet your guy with love
Doesn't it feel good when you come home at the end of the day and you're greeted by a happy pup who's super-excited to see you? When your guy comes home, rather than tossing a simple "hey" his way, go up to him and give him a big hug and kiss. Be excited to see him instead of acting nonchalant.
Forgive and move forward
You could give dogs a scolding and they'll go pout in a corner, but if you call them over to you, it's a good bet they'll still lick your face and try to climb in your lap. They're not going to hold a grudge against you because you had a "tiff." When you have a disagreement with your guy, put all your thoughts and feelings out there, apologize if need be, then let it go. Often, it really is that easy to move past a particular situation but some individuals make it more difficult than necessary.
Cuddling can mean everything
Your dog likely loves curling up with you, but it's even more so when he's not feeling well. If you're having an off day, cuddle up to your guy and let him do the same with you, even if there's no talking involved. Don't hesitate to get physically and emotionally close with him when you want to (as long as it's not overboard). Even just being that close can completely change a person's mood for the better.
Warn before snapping
Dogs will always give warning signs before snapping at another dog or human. His body will go rigid, he'll growl, turn his gaze away from you, etc. Before you snap at your guy and verbally attack him for doing something wrong, give him a warning that you're not happy about what happened. Dogs can't use their words; you can. It's a much more productive way to settle things.
Live in the moment
For dogs, it doesn't matter what happened in the past, it's all about what's going on in the present moment. That's how relationships should be. Granted, it's a lot easier said than done, but the more you work to focus on the present instead of dwelling on what happened in the past, the better it will be for the both of you individually as well as for your relationship.
Dogs may not be able to verbally speak, but they can still teach us to embrace everything good that life and relationships have to offer. It's easy to get so wrapped up in the negative aspects of your dating life, but start looking at the positives and work on opening yourself up to love and all the good that can come along with it.
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