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The cohabitation commandments

nospam@example.com (Hannah Seligson) — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 16:23:25 -0800

Thinking of moving in together? Read the cohabitation commandments before you do.

Found: The Most Crucial Relationship Advice Book Since Men Are From Mars

nospam@example.com (Erin Meanley, Single-ish, Glamour Magazine) — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 19:33:13 -0800

Happy Friday! (And thank you for all of the birthday wishes yesterday!) While I am still in transit on my way to Rio, I thought I’d share with you this amazing little book I stumbled upon. It’s called Talk To Me Like I’m Someone You Love: Relationship Repair in a Flash. Author and psychotherapist Nancy Dreyfus provides 101 flashcards that you can use when “the energy between you and your partner feels more unfriendly than friendly.” Dreyfus says the key to connecting is showing a deeper level of vulnerability. And, she notes, everyone is different, so not all of the messages will feel “you”—but there are 101 of them, so get the book and read through them all! Below, I’ve given one sample message for each category, from the book:

Beat the mate gain

nospam@example.com (Hannah Seligson) — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 14:15:52 -0800

Earlier this week, the number five most e-mailed story on the New York Times was: Study Says Women With Mate Get Heavier. Yes, love handles have found their empirical source. The study, after adjusting for other variables, showed the 10-year weight gain for an average 140-pound woman was 20 pounds if she had a baby and a partner, 15 if she had a partner but no baby, and only 11 pounds if she was childless with no partner.

I first heard about the mate gain when I was doing research for my book about the long-term unmarried relationship, A Little Bit Married: How to know when it’s time to walk down the aisle or out the door . In 2006, Clay Risen wrote a piece in the New York Times Magazine about a study out of Newcastle University Human Nutrition Research Center in Britain. Researchers found that living with a male seemed to put pressure on females to consume more of the “unhealthy” choices. The irony, of course, is that females have a positive influence on their mates’ diets.

Here are some tips on how to avoid the mate gain.

The Happiness Project: Your Resolution for 2010?

nospam@example.com (Mommy Tracked) — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 15:41:34 -0800

by Jo Keroes Ah. A New Year (note the caps). A time for resolutions kept and un.

In this spirit, l can’t resist offering my own resolution: read more books. The platform doesn’t matter. Kindle, i-phone, or good old paper and ink - just read. Read more for pleasure and the exploration of new…

10 Books to a Better You!

nospam@example.com (StyleCaster) — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 17:56:20 -0800

The Top 10 Most Anticipated Album Releases of the Year Queen of PR,

3 Books for the Budget-Minded Home Cook

nospam@example.com (Epicurious.com) — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 04:50:56 -0800

Just about everyone is concerned with saving money. These three books, written by a pair of students, a mother of 10, and a restaurant owner, offer recipes and ideas for trimming your monthly grocery bill without sacrificing taste.

The 10 Most Iconic Relationship Books Of The Past Ten Years

nospam@example.com (YourTango) — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 17:30:11 -0800

When compiling this list of the best relationship books of the past decade, some overriding themes were apparent: Men are sex-obsessed cave men. Women are under the mistaken impression that they're living inside a real-life romantic comedy. But true love and soul mates do exist. It's been a confusing decade for the sexes, but we're confident that we'll figure it all out eventually. Here, a list of the ten most iconic relationship books of the '00s.

Top 5 Breakup Books Of 2009

nospam@example.com (YourTango) — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 21:39:08 -0800

Breaking up is hard to do no matter what, but it sure does help to have a wordy companion during your time of need. Whether it's advice on healing, tips on creating a new life or stories from people who have been there, a good breakup deserves a good read. Here are 2009's best breakup books.

User Post: "Get Real" and Stop Dieting" Book Review

nospam@example.com (Emma Mae) — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 10:58:25 -0800

Until I read "Get Real"…