I've dated a couple of selfish men. There are far too many out there and a lot of them don't even realize how self-centered they are. The mix of hurt feelings on your part and a selfish attitude on his doesn't exactly make for a stable, healthy relationship and isn't a situation you want to find yourself in. Feelings, unfortunately, can sometimes cause you to have blinders on, but when you're aware of the signs that you're dating a selfish guy, you can make the decision about whether or not it's something you can put up with.
He's not particularly concerned if you're sexually satisfied
The guy will make sure he enjoys himself and is sexually satisfied, but when it comes to you, it's just an added bonus and not something that's important unless it involves fluffing his own ego. It's important for both individuals to be sexually satisfied, not just one over the other. Once in awhile is one thing, but when it becomes frequent, that's a different story.
He constantly talks about himself
He talks about work, his friends, how he's feeling and everything else as long as it rarely has to do with you. He may let you get in a sentence or two, but most of the conversations are all about him and that's just the way he likes it.
He doesn't seem to care how you're feeling
You tell him you're upset about something and he doesn't seem to be listening. If he does listen, he doesn't seem to care. The guy is selfish, so unless you're talking to him about his feelings, he doesn't particularly want to hear it.
He doesn't care about your time
The majority of the time you have plans with the guy, he either cancels, arrives late or stands you up. This is a big indication that he doesn't care about your time nor does he respect it. If you did any of that to him there's a good chance he would be furious and expect you to apologize, but when it's the other way around, he's too selfish to care.
He makes no apologies for his negative actions
When he does something wrong, whether or not you try to talk to him about it, he makes no apologies at all for his negative actions. Even if it has to do with something he did that you're upset about, he'll likely try to flip it around to make it seem like you're overreacting or like it's all your fault in the first place. He's too selfish to care that something he did hurt someone else's feelings.
He wants gifts but doesn't like to give them
The guy is more than willing to accept gifts and nice gestures from you, but rarely does he reciprocate. He may do a nice thing or two for your birthday or other special occasion, but it's more out of obligation rather than that he actually wants to. Don't expect much from a selfish guy when it comes to gift giving and doing something nice for you for no reason.
He doesn't offer to help
He finds out your car broke down and you have no ride home, you're sick and need meds or you're making dinner and forgot to pick up wine, but the selfish guy isn't going to offer to help. Once he finds out you need something, he's likely going to go out of his way to dodge you so he can get out of hearing your request or he might flat out deny it altogether.
He doesn't do anything unless he gets something in return
The selfish guy may help you or others, but he only does it when he's getting something in return. For example, he might pick up the wine you need but ask you for the money for it when he has a pocket full of cash. This is going to cause quite a few problems in your relationship, especially when it comes to something you really need but he refuses to help with unless he gets something in return.
A relationship isn't always easy, but dating a selfish guy can make it a hundred times more complicated. Don't settle for someone who is sub par. You deserve a guy who is going to care about you and your feelings, not someone who always puts himself first.
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