Although you have figured out that you and your boyfriend aren't right for each other romantically, it doesn't mean you can't remain friends with him. If your relationship ended on good terms and you both still care for one another, you should definitely keep in contact with him. But transitioning from a relationship to a friendship can be tricky. Here are some tips to help you stay good friends with your ex.
Don't Jump Into a Friendship Right Away
Do not start hanging out with your ex as friends the day after the two of you broke up. It is important to give yourself time to get over your romantic feelings for him and adjust to the idea of being friends with him. If you jump into a friendship too fast, you could ruin things.
Forget About the Past
If you want to have a healthy friendship with your ex, you will have to forget about the past. Constantly dwelling on the bad things that happened in your relationship will make it more difficult to have a good friendship with him. If you have unresolved issues with him, talk them out before you start a friendship. Doing this will help you put the past behind you so that you can start a friendship with him.
Don't Have Sex With Your Ex
It might be tempting to have sex with your ex at times, but going through with it is a big mistake. Having sex with your ex-boyfriend might bring back old romantic feelings and make it very difficult for the two of you to stay good friends.
If your ex-boyfriend is not open to the idea of staying friends with you, do not force the issue on him. Whether he still needs time to get over the breakup or is dating someone who doesn't feel comfortable with him being friends with you, respect his decision. Instead of begging him to stay friends with you, just walk away.
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