There are many different opinions about the morality of dating a man that is going through a divorce. Some will tell you it is the same as being the mistress, while others will support your right to date him throughout the process. I have been in this situation, and am currently still with the same man. While I can understand why women would want to avoid meeting and falling for a person in this predicament, sometimes it cannot be helped. These are some things you should consider before deciding to begin a romance with an "almost single" man.
What baggage does he have?
If it was an impulsive marriage, chances are there is not much he is bringing with him. Children and debt are two huge factors to consider. If he has kids, he will forever be tied to his ex-wife. Money is tighter now than it has been in a long time, and his debt could bring some problems for you as a couple. Once you weigh your options on both issues, you can make an informed decision. Luckily for me, my boyfriend only had debt he was carrying with him. They didn't have children together, so our relationship was fairly normal from the beginning.
Is he really getting divorced?
There is a huge difference between being separated and getting divorced. If the papers have already been drawn or lawyers have been hired, it is a pretty safe bet that they will not be getting back together. All too often men or women walk away for a while and then return to one another before even taking a step towards ending their marriage. You don't want to end up as his "side piece" and get your heart broken when he goes back to his family. This issue was not present in my relationship because his ex-wife moved out and began seeing someone else. I have watched a dear friend get suckered in by a guy only to find out he was never really getting a divorce, he just wanted to have a little fun. It was not a good situation at all.
Why did his marriage fail?
A failure says a lot about a person. What was the reason the marriage didn't work out? This answer can save you a lot of future heartache. Men are creatures of habit and if he was the reason for the demise, your relationship may be next. This is one that you seriously need to consider. A person doesn't change and habits are not easily broken. Fortunately in my situation, my boyfriend and his ex-wife were just two different people. She was young and had other things she wanted to be doing. I did think about this for a long time before jumping into anything with him. We talked for a few months before we even began "dating."
The issue of morality within this situation is a very gray area. You need to consider what is right for you and what you are able to handle. It was a new venture for me to be with someone who had been married, let alone someone who was in the middle of a divorce. It worked out for me, but I have seen some pretty nasty things happen in a situation like this. Always make sure you know the real deal and don't lay your heart on the line to be stomped.
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