Friends are an important part of life. They are there to help you through a break-up, stand next to you when you get married, laugh when you do something stupid, and help you up when you fall. Integrating your friendships and relationships can be a tricky thing. You need to be sure that you can trust everyone involved, especially since there are plenty of things that can go wrong. These are some things you should consider before inviting your friends to be a part of your romantic life.
The trust factor
I still have hesitation about mixing friends and men. There have been a couple occasions where I was burned, and that hurt. Luckily the friends I have now are very trustworthy, which makes it easy to hang out as a group. It is important to have everyone you love get along and when it doesn't happen, it can be devastating. My boyfriend learned the hard way when something happened in his life that was similar to my experience with friends and lovers. We both have trust issues and are working to resolve them. Luckily the group of friends we have is pretty solid and it works for us.
The personality factor
Nothing is worse than having a boyfriend and best friend that hate one another. This has happened in my life and it was a horrible experience all around. If they are not a good fit for one another, it is best to keep them apart. Having two people in your life is better than having one or the other. I gave up a good friend because my boyfriend did not like her. Only three months later my relationship ended and I was left without either person in my life. I will not make that same mistake twice, especially now that I am a little bit older and wiser when it comes to things like this.
It is unfortunate that you have to consider this, but there are people out there that only look out for themselves. What do you you have to offer them or how can you better the situation they are in? All of these things have crossed my mind at some point when considering whether or not to mix relationships and friendships. I have not had any issues with people in this sense, but I have watched it happen around me. It is a very uncomfortable position to be in, and seeing it occur was just as bad.
Ultimately it is your decision to make, but you should consider these things before jumping full force into mixing your friendships and current relationship. I have been burned before so I am more skeptical than most, but it makes sense. People are not always who you think they are, and that can lead to devastating things in the future.
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