You've all seen her. That girl who walks into a room, and instantly gets the attention of all the men. When you look at her closely, you can't help thinking that she isn't that pretty, but there is just something about her. It's not a trick, and it's not a secret. It's confidence. Learning to have confidence in yourself is the first step to turning into "that girl." Here are three reasons why confidence is far more important than looks when you are dating.
Confidence is sexy
Women like to feel sexy. Unfortunately, feeling sexy is hard to do without the confidence to back it up. I used to know someone who wouldn't be described as classically beautiful, but she was oozing sex appeal, and a lot of men were interested in her. She may not have had perfect cover girl looks, but she knew how to make the most of what she had. That is a big part of being confident. It doesn't matter what you look like, as long as you are happy with yourself. Find one thing you like about yourself, and focus on it. Once you find one thing, you will start to find more and more. Before you know it, you'll be feeling super sexy, and will be spoiled for choice in the dating department!
Confidence equals action
Imagine you're in a bar, and you see a good-looking man across the room. He looks over and smiles at you. Instead of smiling back, you turn your head because you think that he probably just feels sorry for you because you're sitting alone. Wrong. Men rarely smile at women they don't know unless they are interested. Sure, he could approach you and strike up a conversation, but wouldn't it be nice to be able to initiate that first step yourself? Confidence allows you to get up and take action, instead of sitting back and waiting for things to happen.
Confidence lasts a lifetime
OK, not all women lose their looks when they age, but being a hottie isn't going to help you in the middle of a crisis. Being confident is a life skill that will get you through almost anything. It isn't about always knowing exactly what to do, it's about knowing there is something you can do. When applied to dating, it means that you will have enough self-esteem to seek out the relationship that you want. Women who lack confidence often find themselves in relationships they don't want to be in. Sometimes it's because they think they won't find anyone else, or because they don't think they deserve any better. That is never true. Confidence is the key to getting out of a bad relationship, and into a good one.
Feeling secure about who you are is not always easy. It takes work and constant reassurance from within yourself. Confidence is an important thing to have, especially when it comes to dating. Take the time to remind yourself about all of your good points, and when you start to believe it, you will really notice a difference in your love life.
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