If you want to improve your sex life, start with your views on your body. I always see advice for "How to look better naked," but what about feeling good naked? You may look fantastic with or without clothes, but if you're not radiating confidence and acceptance from the inside, looks alone can only go so far. When you're confident and happy in your own skin, that carries over to the sex, how great it is and how much you enjoy it. If you're ready to feel better naked and give your sex life a boost, there are several things you can do to feel more comfortable taking it off.
Stop comparing your body to others
It's taken me a long time to constantly stop comparing my body to others (although I still occasionally have my moments). Everyone has things about their body they wish they could change - mine happens to be my hips and legs - and rarely are people completely satisfied with how they look naked. Every time you start gazing at someone else's body wishing you looked like her, rattle off a list of things you love about yourself instead.
Buy sexy lingerie
The purpose of lingerie is not only to make you look good, but to make you feel sexy and take your confidence to the next level. Every woman should have several pieces that she loves to wear and feels incredible in. I have such a love of lingerie that I have a huge drawer devoted to it. Don't settle for pieces that are just pretty, pick out ones that are going to make you feel like a sexy vixen even after your guy takes them off you.
Avoid foods that make you bloat
I don't know many women who feel sexy when they're bloated. Personally, I don't feel so wonderful as I'm jumping around the house trying to zip up my jeans after eating Chinese food. If you want to feel better naked, avoid foods that make you bloat such as fast food, soup, chips and various others that contain a high amount of sodium.
Dance in your underwear
It sounds strange, but dancing around in my underwear is actually one of the ways I've gotten more comfortable being naked and more comfortable with my body in general. Think about how often your body is covered up compared to how often it's not - no wonder many are so uncomfortable being naked! Throw on some good dance tunes, strip down, enjoy yourself and let your body be free of the clothing that usually covers it up. Bonus points if you let your guy "accidentally" catch you while you're dancing around.
Change your lighting
You don't always have to have sex with the lights off. Why would you want to miss looking at your guy's naked body and have him be unable to look at yours? One of the best ways to improve the light in your home is to install dimmer switches. Wherever you have sex in your home, you can adjust the light in that room accordingly so you'll have no problem taking it all off in front of your guy.
Forget your flaws
I could focus all day on the size of my thighs, the large mark I have on my leg or the fact that my stomach isn't ripped, but when it comes down to it, what's the point? Many women cover up because they're uncomfortable with all their flaws, yet everyone has them even if you think they don't. It's all about perspective. When you start to put your flaws to the back of your mind, you pull the positive thoughts to the front. Every time you start to poke at your thigh or bash the size of your arms, whip out the compliments and start flattering yourself. This is going to be one of the best things you can do for yourself in general and when you have sex. Rather than focus on your flaws and worry that your guy is noticing them, you'll be able to do whatever you want in the bedroom without feeling self-conscious.
Exercise more
When you start exercising, you don't just look better, you feel better as well. If you're one of the many women who hates exercising, start out small. Do some situps, go for a walk or play tennis - anything to get yourself off the couch. Before long, you'll start to see the changes on the outside and feel them on the inside. It can also help you build up more stamina and energy for sex.
No woman should feel uncomfortable being naked whether or not she's in front of a guy. You'd be surprised how much improving your confidence can help give your sex life a boost. Of course, the most important thing is for you to feel better in your own skin, but knowing it can help improve your sex life is an extra great motivator.
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