Not all friends have the luxury of living close to each other. Unfortunately, some friendships are long distance and require more effort in order to make things work. There are some friendships that collapse under the weight of the distance and lack of face time, but it's not a given that that's what's going to occur and with some work you can help make sure that doesn't happen. There are several things you can do to keep a long distance friendship flourishing and the bond going strong.
Make plans in advance
It's difficult having a friend you adore and you don't know when the next time is that you're going to see each other. Whether she lives across the country or in the next state, make plans in advance so the both of you have something to look forward to. It's exciting to know you'll soon get to spend time with each other.
Take advantage of Skype
I wasn't a fan of Skype at first, but it's helped me stay in touch with friends I don't get to see very often. The two of us can sit down with a cup of tea and talk to each other while relaxing at home when we can't actually be in the same room. It may not be as great as doing it in person, but it's certainly better than nothing.
Set up a weekly chat
There are certain friends who live long distance who I always try to talk to at least once a week on the phone. Sure text and email is fine and it helps us stay in constant contact, but it's much more comforting to be able to hear the person's voice.
Send each other presents
When your friends live long distance, taking them out for dinner or drinks for their birthday isn't always an option. Make sure to send a present whether it's through the mail or, my personal favorite, by sending gift cards directly to their email. It's a great option for last minute shoppers.
Remember her birthday
A friend who lives close to you will invite you out for her birthday, but that's not likely going to happen if she lives far away. That invite usually serves as a reminder that the person's birthday is coming up and without it, it's up to you to remember. Mark it in your calendar ahead of schedule so you can be one of the first to wish your friend a happy birthday.
Let her be one of the first to find out important news
Many post important news via their Facebook status or Twitter feed before they tell some of the most important people in their life. It's impersonal and it can often lead loved ones to feel offended that they had to find out in that manner. If you have any very close friends who live far away, let them be some of the first to find out important news so they don't feel left out of the loop.
Keep in touch via Facebook
As annoying as Facebook can be sometimes, it's a great tool for keeping in touch with those you don't get to see very often. Make an extra effort to use the site to stay in touch with those who live far away by letting them know you're thinking about them. Post songs, memories or pictures on their pages or just leave them a message to let them know you miss them.
Little gestures can mean a lot, especially when it comes to long distance friendships. Despite what some may think, your relationships don't have to suffer just because you live far away from each other. With a bit of effort, you can keep the relationship as strong and stable as if the two of you lived close by.
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