My first love was someone I met when I was a senior in high school. I believed that we would be together forever, but that was not the case. In fact, we had a very tumultuous relationship from the beginning. I fell hard for him, and he broke my heart. Coping with a break-up is never easy, but it can be less painful with a little help. These are some of the things that helped me mend my broken self and move on with my life.
Get rid of the reminders
This relationship lasted almost three years, and the ending was less than perfect. I had many photographs and items that accumulated over the course of time. He was even my date to my high school prom. When it was all over, I decided that looking at the reminders was too much for me to handle. I grabbed an enormous trash bag and tossed everything in there. It sat in my closet for almost two months before I had the nerve to throw it out, but once it was gone, there was a sense of peace in my life.
Ignore phone calls and texts
This is extremely important, especially if you were in an unhealthy relationship. Severing all ties is the best route to go after a painful break-up. Make sure you block his phone number in your cell phone, and remove him for all of your social media outlets. Luckily for me, things like Facebook and Myspace were not huge when my break-up occurred. I had to avoid him at places we used to frequent, and that was enough to drive me insane.
Find yourself again
Women often lose themselves in a relationship. Their identity becomes about the partnership and the person they once were vanishes. I dealt with this, and it was hard. We were always "M" and Tiffany, and when that stopped, I didn't even recognize who Tiffany was anymore. It was hard getting back into a routine that was no longer centered around someone else. I started going out with friends more and more, and finally after about six months, I felt like myself.
Grieving a break-up takes time. There are many emotions you will experience when dealing with heartbreak, and most of the time it will not be easy. Remembering that things will get better should help you keep moving forward. Never look back because everything that happens in the past makes you the person you are today.
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