Money is at the root of many arguments between couples, so what happens when you actually work with your husband? Whether the two of you have a business together or you just work in the same office, some would immediately warn against it saying your relationship (or your job) is going to crash and burn. However, if you want to give it a shot, there are several things you can do so the two of you can successfully work together without it negatively affecting your relationship or your job.
Put your position and tasks in writing
He said, she said is not beneficial in any area of your life. When the two of you are discussing your roles in the business, put everything in writing. It may seem silly considering the two of you are married, but it can help eliminate quite a few arguments and prevent one of you from getting in the way of the other.
Plan dates that don't involve business
Going to a restaurant for a business lunch doesn't count as a date, it's considered work. The two of you should make plans to go on dates often that don't involve any type of business and yes, that even means no networking. It'll help create a boundary between your personal and professional lives.
Leave work at work
One of the key things to do that can make things easier when working with your husband is to leave work at work. Nancy L. from Morristown, NJ says "Bringing work home with us was a bad idea. I had to make a big effort to make sure we had down time where we talked about other things." Once you leave the office, that's it. Unless there's a legitimate absolute emergency, write yourself a note to talk to your hubby about it during business hours.
Don't transform into a business only relationship
The two of you work together, but you're still a married couple. It's easy for some couples to transform into a business-only relationship, which means they essentially let their professional life overshadow their personal one. Make sure to continue to cultivate your personal relationship even more than you do your business one. Go on dates, be romantic toward each other, make out, improve your sex life and take vacations together. You'll both be much happier for it.
Leave the cutesy stuff for the off hours
Don't call your guy pet names while at work, even if it's just the two of you. It has to be a strictly professional environment, so you want to avoid letting the personal slip in. You should also avoid the PDA's while working, especially if you're at a meeting or you're networking.
Avoid misdirected anger
When you're close with someone, it's easy to unintentionally take your anger out them. Should you and your husband work together, take a breather when you get upset instead of taking it out on your guy. You can only take things out on him so many times and apologize for it before the apology starts to no longer mean anything. Misdirecting your anger is going to create a hostile work environment and a damaged relationship.
Working together with your husband means the two of you will have to work extra hard to compromise. You might insist on doing everything at work exactly the way you want, but before you immediately shoot down your husband's idea, work with him to come to a conclusion that both of you agree on even if it means you have to take some time to think about the decision. If it's a joint business, it should be treated as such.
Have separate work areas
If the two of you are essentially sitting on top of each other in the same office, you're likely going to want to throw things at him on a daily basis. I know a couple who actually used to share a desk - he worked on one side and she worked on the other. That setup didn't last very long. You can keep all of your work papers and equipment in the same space, but at least do your work in two separate areas so you don't annoy each other before the day is only halfway over.
With some adjustments and planning, working with your husband can actually be a good thing. Lisa M. from Austin, Texas says "Working with my husband is great because we are best friends and we know each other so well, it's easy to mesh our talents and abilities on projects. However, we've also found it very useful to make clearly defined lines between what is work time, family time and us time. It's too easy to blend work with your lives and this creates stress." Even if others tell you it's not going to work, if the both of you believe it will, it might be worth taking a chance. There are many couples who make it happen and thrive and the two of you may just end up being one of them.
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