Personal growth

HOW TO FIND THE COURAGE TO GROW IN DIFFICULT CIRCUMSTANCES Are you afraid of what will be coming next in the communication channels that will, more than likely, add to the concerns that you already have about the future? If you are like the rest of us, this would be a normal reaction to the many changes that have taken place in our world in the recent past. As I’m sitting here writing this article my eyes fall on my mother’s portrait, and gradually courage rises up in me to share with others one of the many things I learned from my mother. From a very early age I learned to have courage to face obstacles and adversity, and I learned it from her. Over the years I have found the courage to not only face adversity, but to grow in it and because of it; and so can you. As a psychotherapist I have helped others to do just that, and in each instance I’m inspired and challenged by the courage I see in others. This is how you can find your courage and experience a positive transformation in the process of facing your difficult circumstances: 1. Make a list of the challenges you’ve already faced and dealt with, even though you were afraid. You’ll be surprised at how many difficulties you’ve faced successfully. 2. Be aware of the thoughts and feelings you are experiencing in your current situation. Honor these, but don’t let them dictate your actions or paralyze you. 3. Discuss these with a trusted friend or relative. You may also want to start a journal to record your thoughts and feelings. Keep in mind that you may need to consult with a professional who can help you when others can’t. 4. Begin brainstorming solutions or possible actions you can take. Identify those that are most plausible and start with the simplest action you can take, and gradually advance to other action steps. This will help you to develop self-confidence. 5. Be mindful of resistance that you may encounter within yourself that can limit your ability to take action. 6. If your resistance prevents you from taking action make a list of what is costing you, or will cost you, to remain the same. 7. Assume responsibility for depending on yourself to take action regardless of the fear or other obstacles, whether these are real or imagined. 8. Remain accountable to those who desire your success. Get their feedback and allow them to encourage you. 9. Notice positive change within you and around you. Be willing to learn something valuable, even from your failed attempts. Be patient with yourself and keep going toward your goal. 10. Celebrate small victories and learn to love yourself in the process. Every step you take, no matter how small, is a victory. Remember, every marathon is a series of steps toward the ultimate goal. NELLY VENTURINI, MA LMHC, NCC, CIRT 555 Winderley Place – Suite 300 Maitland, FL 32751 (407) 491-8260 www.nellyventurini.com Read More »