Single and Surviving Valentine's Day

It's just another day, people. Wait it out and there will be St. Patty's day decorations up.

So...you are single. Get together with a group of other singles(friends/associates) and just hang out and enjoy each other's company at a nice eatery or pub/bar. Have fun! Valentine's Day is not just for lovers or married folks. V-Day can be GREAT for those who are just likers :o)
P.S.-You may find love when you stop looking(so hard)-those who like to have good fun tend to draw others pretty easily--enjoy!

I have never had a "Valentine". And, it's never been that big of a deal. I haven't reached the point in my life where I see the importance of being with someone(I'm 19, so...judge that how you may). I enjoy going out with friends and dressing in sweats and not having to worry about every morsel of food that goes in my mouth. Last Valentine's Day, I just did a few of the things that I love (go to bookstores and drink amazing coffee). I'll probably do the same thing this year. I look at Thanksgiving as an opportunity to eat amazing food. And, I look at Valentine's as an opportunity to embrace who I am...with or without a partner.

This "helpless/hopeless romantic" you speak of.. cultural conditioning. Read Love 101 by Peter McWilliams~ be your own valentine. Besides, lets face it with or without a valentine he or she is bound to disappoint on this day of heightened expectation.
xoxo to all

No, thanks! In my experience chocolate and flowers one day a year has not been worth the pain every other day of the year! I can do something nice for myself, like a massage. Flowers and chocolate are cheap at the grocery, too. Though I hope that anyone who wants a valentine, gets one! Good luck!

VDay is an artificially created day of expectation of others. A day those in relationships are expected to "shine" more so than other days. And yet few, not those here though that have said it, can get it through the shallowness that we should, can and do benefit from showing our love, affection, respect and devotion to those we love (in any sense of the word you want) any day of the year. We don't need a "special day" to remember to do so. As for the soothings of "it's just one day", please. There are many of us that have self actualized out the wazoo and are in charge of our lives and know our self worth that still not only want someone special (however you want to define it) in our lives beyond friends and families. We want companionship that a pet or an after work activity does not fulfill. Being held or holding a friend is not the same. Don't sugar coat it and expect us to agree.

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Vday is a day to commemorate romantic love but it's super hyped up for the almighty DOLLAR. Now, I don't blame the department stores for trying to capitalize on the sentimentality of Feb14. After all, they have to take advantage of every opportunity to make a profit. Just don't get sucked into the hooplah. If you're in a relationship, hopefully for the two of you, Vday is EVERY DAY. If you're not in a relationship, it may be just another day or a day when you reminisce about past loves good and bad. If you feel like you need to do something send a Happy Vday note, text or email to other special peeps in your life, like friends and family.

hi

I want Michael to be my Valentine :)
He's so cute! I love him!

Wow, I love how most media outlets and other make being single like a disease or imply that there is something wrong with you. To all single people, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU, look at it this way, you can buy your favorite candy and eat it without someone else diving in and eating the majority of it. It is cheaper, especially in this economny, to not to have to buy a gift. Yes the rest of what "Valentine's Day" is about has to be altered to accomidate one person but in the end who knows you may be better off being able to decide your own night then suffering through a date where the guy completly misses the mark and you are stuck at a bad restraunt and forced to watch a slasher flick and in the end still end up "alone" becuase your date is asleep next to you and you are wanting somemore "entertainment."

I agree all the way with Cheryl
What's up with the word 'surviving'? Is V-day a massacre day?

if in you're heart you love, the day does not matter. the pain of loneliness is sometimes paralyzing. the pain of not loving is worse. i don't have a mate now but i can still love and be grateful for that gift. It really is hard sometimes but it is what it is.[ i hate that saying too, but...] anyways live in peace, love and understanding, the love will be returned.

I'm perfectly secure in my single self and, when I do have a significant other on V-day, never celebrate it anyway. You should treat your partner with love, respect, and thoughtfulness every day. I do not want flowers, an expensive dinner, or any other garbage just because it's Feb 14th.

iam helpless and hopeless koz it is really hard not to celebrate valentine day after i had with whom i thought my love

I understand all of that but I am guilty of really wanting a Valentine. Not the chocolates, roses or giant teddy bears but simpply someone to put their arms around me. (I'm secretly a helpless romantic).

I want someone specific as well. Very nice post though.

I've spent the last 3 Valentine's day alone.. another year wont hurt... but like Hannah- I am a helpless romantic... Someone to keep me company is all a woman wants. :D

This VDay, I doubt I will have a boyfriend. I've pretty much given up on hope. I'm a hopeless romantic, but i'm different from all of the other girls because i'm not 'pretty' enough. I've been so upset about this recently, I just wish there was someone to put there arms around me and tell me that they truly loved me.

On Valentine's Day, I secretly feel sad if I don't have anyone special. It's sine qua non to women to want to feel special to someone of the opposite sex. When not in a relationship, I think about past loves, and mourn that they did not love me enough to work it out, or I remember how they hurt me or betrayed my trust. Let's face it, V Day is a great day for only a select few. It is a tangible reminder of how much importance is placed on being young and hot.

What I take from V Day is to remember to listen to people and show them you care on a daily basis. It encourages me to be less shallow and talk/listen to people even if they are not young or hot. There are a lot of lonely people out there who could use a friend, or just an acquaintance who gives them the proverbial time of day without expecting anything in return.

Make this Valentine's Day a day of true love for humanity, not about fleeting, hollow romantic gestures aimed at a small segment of the population.

dont worry about being single its ok for a while