Relationships are something that should be kept private for the most part. Airing your dirty laundry is in poor taste and can lead to many complications between you and your partner. Men often aren't as vocal as women when it comes to trials and tribulations. This makes it harder for us to break the stereotype of the "drama-causing girlfriend." These are some things you should avoid doing to help keep things argument and drama free in your partnership.
Do not post everything on social media sites
I will admit, I tend to vent a lot on Facebook about my boyfriend. Probably a little too much according to my friends. I have seen women post things that were completely over the top on not only Facebook, but also Myspace and Twitter. It is incredible to see what people will post before thinking things through. Not only will this cause major issues in your relationship, it can lead to the ending of it. I try to refrain from venting on sites like this now, especially after seeing how extreme some women can be. Calling a friend or just typing it out and trashing it are much easier ways to get your feelings out and not cause a rift between the two of you.
Avoid dogging him to his family members
Why do some women do this? The answer is beyond me, and I can't imagine what they think they will gain by doing so. There have been a few occurrences where I have mentioned that my boyfriend was being a jerk or where a post on Facebook may have given it away, but I never went to his family specifically to complain about him. Women are calling their boyfriend's mothers, posting on social networking sites for everyone to see, and even talking badly about him in front of him at a family gathering. This is not only disrespectful, it is childish. Never dog him to his relatives, it will only backfire on you and make you look like a fool.
Do not pick fights intentionally
Some women crave drama and will pick a fight with their man just for laughs. This is completely unattractive, especially to outsiders looking in. Most men are not fond of arguing, and once it becomes too much to handle, they will split. If you are bored with your man, you may need call it quits and move on. No one enjoys living in constant turmoil. I have watched a close friend do this in her relationships. Every single time she chases these men off. It amazes me that she has not noticed she is the problem. She is still doing this at nearly 30, and all I can do is sit back and shake my head.
Being known as the drama-causing girlfriend is a label many women want to avoid. These things are completely avoidable, especially if you think before you speak. Next time you post something on Facebook about your relationship or call your boyfriend's mother, think about the fallout that may happen. The less drama between you and him, the better off your partnership will be.
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