Worries in the bedroom aren't reserved for one gender over the other. Many guys actually worry just as much as women, if not more, about things going right during sex. While it's up to him to get over his insecurities, you can help him along a bit. I've heard some horror stories from guys regarding women who essentially almost ripped their confidence to shreds after a sex session. The opposite reactions obviously work in a more positive way. Should you find yourself dealing with a common bedroom worry from your guy, there are several things you can do to help make him feel a little bit better.
He worries he's not big enough
This is probably the biggest worry that I've heard about from guys. While there are some who swear their God's gift to women, there are many who wish they had an extra inch or two. There are two ways you can let him know that he's good for you just the way he is. The first is by never telling him that a former partner was bigger or better. The second way is by just by letting him know how fantastic he is in bed.
He worries he can't "get it up"
I felt so bad for guy friends who told me that they were trying to have sex with a girl and couldn't "get it up" especially after a night of drinking. Even then I saw a slight bit of reminiscent panic cross over their faces. One guy told me about a time when he couldn't perform thanks to too much whiskey and the girl rolled her eyes, got out of bed, got dressed and walked right out the door. Should this happen, don't make him feel worse than he already does. Let it go and let him know that the two of you can pick things up again another time.
He worries he won't last or will go too long
Many ladies already know that guys worry about not lasting long enough, but some also worry about lasting too long. One guy told me that he has a problem orgasming during oral sex and it's caused problems in the past. If the two of you have been going at it for awhile, it may be tempting to just roll over and go to sleep, but don't do it unless you want to completely crush his confidence. Ask him what you can do to help him along and keep switching things up to see what works for the both of you.
He worries he won't taste/smell great
Some guys could care less if their semen tastes and smells good, but others actually worry that it's going to be a huge turnoff for their partner. If this is something your guy worries about, or you can't stand the taste and smell and you want a way for it to get better, try telling him to eat fruit. Certain fruits such as blueberries, pineapple, watermelon and kiwis are said to improve the problem. There's no guarantee it'll work, but at least it's worth a shot. If it doesn't work, do your best to not make him feel bad about the issue.
He worries he's not satisfying you
While you may not be able to do a huge amount regarding the aforementioned issues, there's a lot you can do about this one. Some women lay there like lumps just waiting to orgasm. Sex is supposed to be enjoyable! Make some noise, dig your nails into his back, tell him how fantastic he is, just don't stay silent. Make sure not to be over dramatic or he's going to think you're faking.
He worries there's something you won't like about his body
I can't even tell you how many of my guy friends and exes have told me they think they're too chubby or too fat. Guys have just as many body insecurities as women even if it doesn't seem that way. Some women forgo the compliments thinking their guy doesn't need to hear them, but that's far from the truth. The best way to get your guy over this insecurity is by telling him how hot he looks whether he's dressed or naked. Rub your hands on his body, be specific with your compliments and tell him how much he turns you on. When he knows how much you want him, he'll feel better about himself.
There's a huge difference between dating an insecure man and dating a man with some insecurities. While I have no problem dating the latter, I need a guy with some confidence who actually believes he's worth something. Whether or not your guy tells you he has some insecurities in the bedroom, chances are he does, so just make an extra effort to help him feel good about himself and both of you are certainly going to reap the rewards.
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