Working through a tragedy with someone you love can be complicated. Not only are you dealing with the stress of the situation, but also the stresses of everyday life as a couple. Going through a life-changing experience at any point is difficult, but adding in the effect it has on your family and relationship can put you over the edge. These are some ways you can help your partner cope with unexpected things, and also strengthen the bond you have as a couple.
Offer a shoulder for him to cry on
Men rarely cry, and most often they won't admit when they do. I have been with my husband for a little under four years, and up until recently I had not seen him cry. There was an accident in the family recently that affected him deeply. I have offered to let him sit and cry while I listen, but it seems he is too proud to actually let it all out. If you are looking to comfort your man, offer him a place to cry and an ear to listen with. While he may not take you up on it, he will appreciate it.
As we are enduring this chaos together, I am trying to keep him busy so he is not sitting around worrying about what will happen next. We have gone shopping, walked around the community, and even hung out around the television set. Distractions will help him to be able to decipher different events as they happen instead of lumping everything together. Offer to do some of his favorite things, cook him dinner, or anything else you think he may enjoy. As long as you can keep his mind off things for a little while, your job is done.
Participate in his life
Stand beside him through everything. Depending on what happened, make yourself as present as possible. Attend events with him, accompany him on long car rides, and do whatever else you think is necessary to help him deal with what was handed to him. I am with my husband every step of the way as we journey into the unknown. The situation we are dealing with will be a long process and take a lot of cooperation. Whatever he needs, we will get it done together.
Dealing with something that was tragic and unexpected is not what many want to do, but it is life. Being there to support the man you love will only build your bond stronger. Standing by your man through the ups and downs is what any good woman would do, and he will appreciate it down the road.
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