Finding "the one" drives many modern woman to distraction. Assorted dating sites and gurus promise that soul-mate connection but who needs them? Women today have the smarts (and intuition) to know when he's the one--and when he isn't! I asked 10 women from across the U.S., "How did you know he wasn't the one?"
"I kept dreaming about my ex. I bought my new guy the ex's cologne, bought him some clothes, it was stupid on my part. I finally had to confess that I wanted to go back. It just didn't click for me." - Lynne Johnston, Oxford, Mass.
"I knew he wasn't the one when he used spit as a lubricant during sex. He spit on me! I wanted to throw up, after I showered. It ended it right then and there. He was disgusting." - Samara Union, Jackson, Miss.
"He wouldn't say, 'I love you.' We had been dating for three years! I knew he wasn't the one for me. Loving someone can't be that hard." - Michelle Bryant, Anniston, Ala.
"I found out my ex-boyfriend had anti-feminism tendencies. That irked me. I got tired of him griping about his female boss. He was obviously not the guy for me, or any intelligent woman." - Annabeth Richards, Schenectady, N.Y.
"I aced my finals and couldn't wait to tell everyone, but him. It was a surprising moment of clarity." - Fiona Baxter, Houma, La.
"I lost my mother, then my sister. All he could say was, 'Call me when you can.' That was my 'aha' moment." - Brandy Odell, Gulf Shores, Ala.
"He absolutely hated my friends, making fun of them all the time. It was like, he was talking bad about me. I dumped him." - Emily Turlington, Mobile, Ala.
"Honestly, I got so tired of making excuses for him. Eddie couldn't come because blah blah blah. I'm a social person and I'm not spending my life in front of an XBox." - Renny Box, Leakesville, Miss.
"I knew he wasn't for me when he couldn't keep my secrets. It was nobody's business that I had a little cosmetic surgery done. I hate a blabbermouth, especially if that blabbermouth is your boyfriend." - Gina Waller, Jacksonville, Fla.
"I knew he wasn't very motivated in his career, or life really, but it wasn't until I caught him smoking weed that I knew why. His manager called me because he hadn't come in. I ran to his apartment thinking that he had slept in only to find him stoned out of his gourd. Then he had the nerve to offer me some. Yeah, that was a big disappointment." - Petra Wellingham, Semmes, Ala.