CosmopolitanIf these girls look familiar, it's time to make a change.
By Maria Coder
1. The "Mami "
You remember your colleagues' birthdays, jump in when they're running behind, and even volunteer to fix their slip-ups. In fact, you're so busy helping others with their work that your own projects are languishing. "It's alright to help your co-workers, but it's not okay for you to become a caretaker," explains psychologist Mildred Borras, who counsels people on personal and career matters. "If you're helping someone, make sure to set boundaries. You don't want to make this a habit because, eventually, you'll make your co-workers dependent on you and set yourself up to feel angry, resentful and victimized." Instead, Dr. Borras says, collaborate with your peers on projects and keep your volunteerism in check.
2. The Drama Queen
Everything you do is Oscar worthy...including your latest paper cut. "Drama, when used effectively, can be a good thing," says Maria Hinojosa, an award-winning journalist who uses drama to reenact experiences and foster understanding amongst staff. "I purposefully make it loud and big; it is story telling." But, when used with little regard it can ruin camaraderie and be disruptive. "If you are bringing negative vibes...it will impact how everyone is feeling." If your story will connect and bring people together, go for it-otherwise take a break.
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3. The Gossip Queen
You're the first to "spread the word" but surely you've got better things to do. "It's a waste of good valuable time," says Sixcia Devine, founder of consulting firm Sixcia Business. While chatting helps create community and fosters efficient workflow, negative dishing does the opposite. So use your knowledge for good. "Have a cafecito with a new colleague and capture ideas on how the company can add value to its clients, community, and culture," Devine suggests. Chismear makes you look bad and can hurt your career.
4. The Rebel
Sure your boss hates it when you're late or wear that low-cut blouse to meetings, but you just can't be bothered to conform. "Don't get carried away," says Judith Bowman, author of Don't Take the Last Donut: New Rules of Business Etiquette. "Your boss wants to know you're different but not so different that you're tagged a rebel." Bowman suggests sticking to office protocol and "redirecting that rebellious energy in a positive manner to lead, motivate, and advance your career."
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