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    5 Life lessons from Pumpkin

    From the minute I was born, animals have been a part of my life. When I was brought home from the hospital, my parents' black Great Dane, named none other than Lucifer, quickly became my surrogate mother. Then we adopted Thor, a Siberian Husky. And years later, when I was in 9th grade, Wednesday, a black and white tuxedo kitten, came to our doorstep hungry and tired. Wednesday managed to worm her way into our dog loving hearts and as a result, our 'dog family' soon became a 'dog AND cat family'. As a matter of fact, Aristotle, a white fluffy kitten, and Pumpkin, a redheaded stray, were initiated into the family soon thereafter.

    When I graduated from college, I traveled a lot for business and didn't feel it was fair to have animals. Further, spending time away from our family's felines caused me to develop an allergy to both cats and dogs, which would propel me into a Claritin dependency any time I visited my parents' home. Needless to say, for the better part of 14 years, having animals was put on the back burner. So, when my mom asked if I would 'cat sit' Pumpkin for a few weeks, it was hard to say no.

    Let me start by saying that Pumpkin is not a cat. Okay, yes, physically he is a cat. But, mentally, he is the 'doggiest' cat you will ever meet, and I have proof: My husband Dave, who has only wanted a dog for as long as I've known him, has outwardly expressed wanting a Pumpkin II.

    Over the 26 wonderful days we've spent with Pumpkin, Dave and I have learned some of the best lessons. Pumpkin honestly knows the most important secrets to life:

    1. Love should be unconditional. Pumpkin is a good cat, but when he would do something 'less than stellar', it was difficult to stay upset. Is a matter of fact, a light scolding would turn into a mutual 'love fest'. He would give me big saucer eyes and I would 'have to' pick him up and smother him with kisses. With people, we often have expectations and when they aren't met, our love can be overridden by anger, resentment, or disappointment. Letting things go, and understanding that our loved ones make mistakes is part of loving them.
    2. Take time and do nothing. Before Pumpkin's visit, Dave and I were always on the go. If we were home, we had to be doing something, even if it was watching TV. A lazy afternoon meant running errands. And, sitting at home on a Friday night seemed boring. With Pumpkin, we could sit on the couch and be with him, with or without the TV. We could pet him, watch his whiskers twitch and listen to his purr for hours. In the morning, we would let him snuggle between us and be content just being together the three of us. We enjoyed our time doing absolutely nothing.
    3. Any time is a good time to be loving. Pumpkin was always up for affection. He always received love with open paws, and was always quick to return the love. You could even wake him up from his cat naps and give him ear rubs. He never held grudges and he always gave love openly and fully. In our hectic lives, we sometimes forget to stop and be loving towards one another. Further, we sometimes withhold affection if we carry a grudge. Affection is important in bringing people closer, and feeling loved and secure. Further, giving love (and receiving love) releases some happy endorphins that keep you feeling all fuzzy (pardon the pun) inside.
    4. Put things in perspective. If I felt stressed or anxious about something, all I would have to do was look at Pumpkin and I could feel my face relax, the stress melt away and the corners of my mouth turn up into a smile. Animals have a way of bringing true calm and peace to your being, and it is that calm, that we so often forget to maintain on our own. Animals also seem to 'get' what life is about: it is the experience and living in the moment. Being around Pumpkin has allowed us to take things a little more lightly and realize that getting all worked up over some things just isn't worth the stress.
    5. Life is precious and beautiful. Somehow, as humans, we take life for granted. We are big, we are strong and we are intelligent enough, for the most part, to keep ourselves from danger. Spending time with Pumpkin, has reminded me how very precious life is. Watching him breathe, watching the end of his tail flicker, watching his pupils become big with adoration...all seemed like incredible feats of life. How something so beautiful can be real, is almost beyond me. Life truly is precious.

    The last 26 days with Pumpkin have been anything but boring. I now realize that Pumpkin did more 'human sitting' than we did 'cat sitting.'

    Pumpkin went back to my mom's today. It was terribly painful. His love made our home more loving and more special. He even had a way of helping bring Dave and I closer together. I think every person should have an animal in their lives. They bring so much joy and peace to our existence.

    Do you have pets? How do they make you feel?

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    66 comments

    • EGM  •  2 years 10 months ago
      What a wonderful description of how cats make us feel. I am both a dog and cat lover, equally i'm afraid, but they are very different creatures, both give us unconditional love and have different needs from us, one need is always love. I have two very loving cats, one that looks just like Pumpkin: He was a tiny kitten rescued from a trash bin. He was wild and crazy when i got him but now at 2 he's soooo sweet and loving & he acts like a dog too, growls and can't purr, steal my jewelery, eats my shoes and has to be under the covers. I know some of these bazzar behaviors manifested because he was never taught my his mom otherwise. But Baby is just perfect, loving and mine. So is Mr. Kitty, Sofie and Sparky, just what my life needs. And I feel sorry for anyone who has not experienced animal love.
    • wannabecritic  •  2 years 10 months ago
      Pumpkin looked just like the cat I used to have, Tabloid Günter Gardner was his name, I called him Tabby for short. He came to my apartment early one morning and stayed for 8 years. He was so small I could put him in the palm of my hand. He grew to be 16 lbs, long hair and with the fluffiest fattest tail I ever saw on a cat. He was lovable, entertaining and giving. He went hunting one day and presented me with a dead bird once. Yuck--I know, but I thank him anyway. I only had one request of Tabby and that was to stay out of the kitchen. For eight years he honored my request, not without complaining of course! Someday I will get another cat just like my friend Tabloid Günter Gardner.
    • Brett Blumenthal - Sheer ...  •  2 years 10 months ago
      Dane...I commend you for loving cats. Many men are resistant...like my husband. But I'm hopeful that Pumpkin has changed his perspective for good!
    • A Yahoo! User  •  2 years 10 months ago
      I loved this article I have 2 dogs, 3 cats and 1 horse all are my precious babies. They all give uncontional love in their own individual ways. I couldn't live without animals in my life they can teach us alot if we listen.
    • Jessica  •  2 years 10 months ago
      Cats rule!! No seriously, they literally rule the house (at least in mine they do). There is nothing in the world that can make you feel better than a big fur-ball-of-a-cat. I have had (and lost) several cats in my life time. It is the hardest thing to deal with to lose such a loving friend, but so worth it. Cats can bring so much joy and peace in your life. They are good for kids, as well. They teach them about unconditional love and friendship and responsibility.

      R.I.P.- Mitzy, Max, Bronson, Bert, Ernie, & Monty, my dear four-legged, feline friends who are now in kitty heaven
    • Smith  •  2 years 10 months ago
      Love should be unconditional? Really? Says who?
    • titanicmike  •  2 years 10 months ago
      Reading your post this morning really warms my heart. We just recently lost our beloved cat of 12 years. And as you say they can be a real pick me up. Whenever I would be feeling down our precious cat would bring a smile. She got really sick a couple of months ago and was far from herself. My wife and I have been out of work almost a year now and have little to live on. I tried to get every vet around here to help us(we live at Carolina Beach,NC) and none would with out money. I always thought vets had a heart for animals. But that is not the case around here. Our poor baby wandered off 10 days ago, I hope she died without pain. We miss and loved her so much.
    • just a girl  •  2 years 10 months ago
      Sweet story. I too had a Pumpkin in my life that I miss more than anything after reading this article. Thank you for reminding me of the important things in life. :)
    • Brett Blumenthal - Sheer ...  •  2 years 10 months ago
      wenjimsan. I couldn't agree with you more! I think another little pumpkin is on its way soon :)
    • Dane  •  2 years 10 months ago
      My wife was introduced to pets by me, first as we dated, and then as we moved in together. The greatest thing she said about them was this: "I spent all those years living alone, not knowing how great it is to have pets. I wish I hadn't wasted all that time!" That's when I knew she wasn't just tolerating the 5 cats I manage because it was part of accepting my "faults"; she has bonded with them and made them family. She spoils them rotten and they have never had a better life than with both of us. It's been an incredibly cool ride, most especially for the cats (I suspect).
    • Wendy  •  2 years 10 months ago
      That sounds like a wonderful experience. When you are ready, please go to an animal shelter or local rescue organization and choose yourself another cat to love - you'll feel better - the cat will live in a great home and it's the best tribute to Pumpkin.
    • marina  •  2 years 10 months ago
      i have an abby cat, she is 9 years old now i had her since she was 3 months old
      the only thing i can say is that she is my joy , my friend, and i love her dearly
      my family is far away from here and is very difficult to visit, i did not see them in almost 6 years- they are on another continent- and all the moments when i felt lonely or sad Peek-a-Boo - that's my baby abby -
      cheered me up and shared her purrs with me
      some people might think i am crazy, but i am sure that she can understand me all the time- the only thing is that she cannot speak

      all of you who love and appreciate pets, all my respect and consideration for your good hearts
    • Jean  •  2 years 10 months ago
      This is very true, I have 3 dogs, and 1 cat, and they always love me even when I get mad at them. But with the looks they give me, I can't help but sit down and have them on my lap and love them. They do teach us how to love, not matter what.
    • Pamela S  •  2 years 10 months ago
      We lost our Tim. At times we didn't think he was a cat. He followed us on our walks out to the back of our farm, followed us down to the mail box and took charge of every home we moved to (and we moved a lot)and was the greatest kaflumper we'll ever know. Ferrel dogs got him about a year ago. We tried so hard to keep him with us but he was suffering. It hurts and we still miss him but he left his mark with us. He changed how we thought of cats. There will never be another Pumpkin but there will be so many other cats to love. And Pumpkin will always be with you.
      Pam
    • happylady  •  2 years 10 months ago
      My cat has seen me through a divorce, my children being away at school and (what could have been), some lonely times. My daughter keeps insisting our cat needs therapy for a personality disorder... of thinking he is a dog. When our orange tabby was hit by a car and had to put to sleep, my (then) husband cried like a baby. I have buried 5 of my cats in my backyard. Orange males are definitely fabulous. Anyone who says they don't like cats has surely never been owned by one.
    • JT  •  2 years 10 months ago
      Such a great article!! Brought tears to my eyes, because it's so true what you were saying. We all need to just stop and appreciate the little things in life. I'm sorry to hear about Pumpkin's passing, but the memories will always be there!
    • trixa2icu  •  2 years 10 months ago
      NO DOUBT it is a true. I also have a cat-dog. Toby followed three dogs and a human home from the park as a kitten. I was the Aunt so to say. When his companions ended up overseas without plans for the fur friends I stepped in. Amazing that Best Friends took the dogs and they lived heaven on earth till their last days. Toby mourned and was attacked by the feral cat he always saw but who did not bother him due to the dogs. After the 2nd attack I brought him home. He growled when I reached for his dish, greeted everyone at the door, was in your face for attention at every turn from anyone and had lessons on being a cat from my beloved Lynda. His first reaction to Lynda was to put his paw up and slap her for licking him on the face. I told him, how she was greeting him and he fell head over heels for her. There were 4 cats at one point. Snickers the loner who purred the minute you touched her, Lynda who loved all live beings of anykind, and Taze the youngster who matured to quickly around all the older felines. Toby knew before the vet or I that Lynda and Snickers were ill and even on their last day he knew they crossed over before the vet. He got up and walked away. He had been spraying for 2 yrs and I thought it was a behavior thing but he knew they were ill. Shortly after Snickers left the spraying stopped. Then Taze was ill over night after a dental and vaccines. He sprayed for just the time she was unable to feel normal.
      I then realized that when I had to help my rat friends cross and would tell Toby to leave that he only wanted to be with them and say goodbye. So now he sits between myself and my vet and when my little friends have crossed he leaves the room.
      All my animal companions no matter the size , type or temperment give me such love and joy. they heal me even in the saddness of goodbye. I have had a badger come and sit on the other side of my screen door while I sat with Hamlet a rat who was dying. Taze sat with us and it was a very shamanic moment. Panda took his last breath after licking my lips. He was a rat. I watched a mouse look for her friend whose body I put back in the cage so she would know she was gone.
      Baby tunneled through the bedding round and round as if looking for something. Never had any mouse of mine done this. Then she all of a sudden stopped at the body of Baby 1 and started to wash the body from head to toe and fell asleep with her head resting on Baby 1. I just watched and tears flowed. It was an amazing site to see such love. She would not let me take the body out. later on I had to pick her up and put her in a clean cage and she was back to her everyday self.
      they teach us truth, compassion, joy and the wonders that we take for granted.
      thank you for this wonderful article with gratitude from the animal kingdom and myself.
    • Regina  •  2 years 10 months ago
      i never thought i could love an animal as much as i love my grey tabby maerose she is truly a blessing in my life that sweet face and that cute little nose i cant' live without it
    • KevinF  •  2 years 10 months ago
      You can have your cat without the allergies! The Russian Blue is a beautiful cat and also produces less of the stuff in the saliva that causes most allergies. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Russian_Blue
    • JR.  •  2 years 10 months ago
      TO EVERYBODY I HAVE TWO I'VE GOT THEM WHEN THEY WERE 7 WEEKS OLD THEY ARE NOW FIVE AND A HALF YRS' YOUNG.
      SISTER AND BROTHER BOTH TABBIES MISSY AND MORRIS WE CALL THEM M&M IN SHORT.I GOT INJURED IN 03.HAD 5 SURGERIES.MISSY FEMALE GRAY AND BLACK WITH A RACOON TAIL.MORRIS IS PUMPKINS COLOR AND WHITE BEATUFULL COLORING.HE REMINES OF DEWEY THE LIBRARY CAT REAL TOUCHING BOOK.SINCE MY INJURIES MY WIFE AND I DON'T LIVE TOGETHERI. I'M 58 YR'S YOUNG AND IF IT WASN'T FOR MISSY AND MORRIS I DON'T KNOW WANT I WOULD DO. I NEVER BEEN A CAT LOVER BUT FOR THE LOVE THESE TWO KID'S OF MINE HAS GAVE ME I THANK GOD FOR GIVING THEM TO ME.THEY HAVE TAKEN A LOT OF STRESS OF OF ME NOW GOING THROUGH ANOTHER SURGERY ON MY CERVAL SPINE.MISSY IS LIKE A HUMAN TO ME I CAN TALK TO HER SHE WILL ME-MOW .I LET THEM OUT ON MY CAR PORT THEY HEVE NEVER STRAYED AWAY FROM HOME AT NIGHT I GO OUTSIDE IN THE BACK YARD CALL FOR HER SHE COME INSIDE JUST A A KID.MORRIS LIKE'S TO RIDE ON MY SHOULDER.I'M VERY BLESSED TO HAVE THESE TWO THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME JR.

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