I told myself I wouldn't let it happen again. But last month, there I was, cringing my way through the season premiere of The Bachelorette. And just as I can't stop myself from tuning in to the train wreck every week, the bachelors can't seem to stop themselves from making the same missteps we see every season. But don't worry, boys; your dating disasters are nothing a few savvy career tips can't fix. Read on to see a few interview pointers that this season's bachelors could learn from.
- Don't Over Share - Giving specific answers and sharing details are crucial in a job interview - and on a reality TV dating show. But know when to quit before being thorough turns uncomfortable. Case-in-point: short-lived contestant Derrick, aka "Shooter." Why Derrick thought sharing the real meaning behind his college nickname was a good idea, we'll never know, but it certainly didn't get him far. As Ali so succinctly put it, WTF?
- Don't Appear Cocky or Bored - Although hiring managers - and bachelorettes - like a candidate with confidence, acting as if you've already got the gig or are too cool for school won't get you far. Overconfidence was ultimately what took Craig "The Hair" M. out of the Bachelorette equation; despite all his posturing (and bullying) with the other guys, his lack of enthusiasm didn't impress Ali.
- Don't Use Cliches - Interviewers and bachelorettes have basically seen and heard it all; feeding them unoriginal, vague lines definitely won't help your case. If this season's contestants want to stay in the game, phrases like, "He's here for the wrong reasons," "I'm not here to make friends," and "I'm here to meet a wife - and a best friend," had better give way to some more meaningful conversations.
- Don't Dwell on Your Weaknesses - There's no way around answering the "What is your biggest weakness?" question, but you also shouldn't dwell too long on this topic. I'm looking at you, Weatherman. So far, Jonathan has very openly (and borderline obsessively?) worried about his ability to fill out a Speedo, the possibility that Craig M. is "like, literally like a dangerous person," and his kissing scene with Ali in the Barenaked Ladies music video. Which leaves us, and hopefully eventually Ali, wondering, "Why ARE you the right guy for this job?"
- Aim to Impress Everyone You Meet - It isn't just the interviewer's opinion that counts when you're gunning for a job; treating the secretary or doorman poorly can come back to bite you, too. Craig M. doesn't seem to have gotten that memo. He made it his goal to make an enemy out of every other bachelor on the show, especially poor easy target Jonathan - and was ratted out to Ali as a result.
- Don't Appear Desperate - No matter how badly you need the job, or want the girl, letting your desperation show is never a good idea. Ali may be eating up Justin's antics for now (hobbling to her house, showing her baby pictures, tearing up over his daddy issues), but the rest of us - and the rest of the bachelors - aren't enjoying it. Acting desperate and needy sends the message that you don't value yourself - so why should someone else?
Back to Basics: Interview Dos and Don'ts, Part 1
Back to Basics: Interview Dos and Don'ts, Part 2
Interview Tip: Do Get Caught Up in the Details
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