A WWE Diva leaves a career for marriage: Do women really still do this?

I always remember how you encouraged those of us in male-dominated professions (geology, forestry) to be as feminine as possible in our jobs. Instead of jeans-and-t-shirt uniforms, you encouraged us to wear dresses and do our hair and make-up (even just a little bit). It turned the world upside down without us saying a word! My roommate and I followed your advice and soon the men in our labs and classes were treating us with deference and respect–as well as dressing up themselves and cleaning their own act up (tucking in shirts, combing hair, no more cussing). I will never forget that.

- Amy
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Do those of you who question her decision have any idea how much time she spends on the road? They do events practically every day of every week. After 10 years, I'm sure she is thrilled to wake up in the same room for more than two days in a row. Marriage is hard enough without being on the road 90% of the time, much less having kids. She was fortunate enough to have a well-paying, very demanding job that she can now enjoy the fruits of.

She sucked, and probably literally too. That's the only way she kept her job for so many years because she was terrible!!!

I think what her career was might also have factored into it. A WWE announcer is gone almost all the time. The fights are in a different city almost every night. If she wanted to have a marriage at all, keeping that particular job would have been almost impossible unless she married another WWE employee. I had a friend who announced for the WWE and seriously, we almost never saw him and we were just his friends. A spouse would have been impossible.

I think she is a real woman....I wish her the best of everything. Her husband will be unstoppable in his persuit of making her the happpiest woman in the world. The best things in life aren't "things".

ladybella04 and h.fickling21, Lilian is NOT going to stay home and be a homemaker. I really wish the author did just a little homework on her background.

Lilian is a up-and-coming recording artist who has one album under her belt. She'll be in the recording studio. She will also be performing around the country, including singing the national anthem at sporting events around the US.

Her US audience will be a little limited however. Her first album was a Spanish language one, and there really isn't a huge audience for it.

I, personally, would never leave my career for a man. I like to know that if something were to happen & we split I have money of my own to get myself off the ground & start fresh. Not to mention that I would hate to "ask" for something. This way, we split the bills and whatever money I have left over I can do with what I please. Having some sort of independence inside a committed relationship will keep you from being a "dependant", sometimes needy person. Because without your own income you are just that.

I think it is not so much a matter of a woman giving up her "life" and her "career" as such...if someone can leave their job and get married, and have the money to live off of ONE person's paycheck, then that is no problem. Lillian left because she also is in a band and performs with them. She is well-off no matter what.

I think marriage is right for SOME women, but it usually means giving up part of your life to your husband and his family as well as future children. If you are a woman with strong independence and abounding ambition and vision, you ought to give yourself time to do those things and opt to stay single. Your husband will not be able to fulfill your vision for you. Don't get caught up in the fantasy dream that a man will make you happy and share all your dreams. If you marry him, you have pledged to share your life with him, and be subject to whatever flaws and failures he has...And if you have kids, those kids need to be allowed to know their father from close range and experience his love as well. So women ought to beware of their own weakness to have someone rescue them...It is often with a price. If you are ready to make the long-term sacrifice, then go for it. But, if you are independent and competent, don't compromise your own dreams!

You know maybe she wanted to leave and do other things. The WWE emplyoees are on the road for 200 days a year I'm surprize some have made it work as long as they have. But in the end it her decision to leave to one can say what is right or wrong.

You know maybe she wanted to leave and do other things. The WWE emplyoees are on the road for 200 days a year I'm surprize some have made it work as long as they have. But in the end it her decision to leave to one can say what is right or wrong.

I thought when I had children my job would work around them. I tried to have jobs but they didn't work out. Mainly I wanted to have my own money. After my first came the second, rather quickly. It just wasn't working and my husband and I had to agree I would stay home with the children until the third one, (yest the third one) was in 1st grade. That worked out better. But I didn't work full time. I started out slowly. Part-time and gradually went into full time work. I am glad I stayed home with them. We did have to tighten up and cut back, but it was worth it. You will get better teenagers. I also believe there are times and seasons. Now if you asked me now if I wanted to stay at home I would say no. My boys are now in their late teen years, I'm still married and I like having my own dough still. I think the battle is feeling like you are inadequate or less self sufficient. Those feelings are natural. Your marriage should come first, let alone your children. I hope one day that as women, we stop tearing eachother down when it comes to our personal decisions about marriage and family. It's that same ole Stay at home moms vs working moms. We all work!

when i read Crazy Horse's post, I did not think she sounded primeval at all. Classicalmuzclovr sounds like s/he just wants to critizice and dis someone.

All Crazy Horse was saying was that there are some men and old traditions who feel they rule over the woman, and that the woman is his servant and lays it all down for him...These are macho men who often are mere children. They are often abusive and adulterers. However, this pattern needs to change and the only way it will is for women to refuse this treatment.

Crazy horse simply said that Lillian may have been influenced in some way by this notion. She was referring to these types of men, not all women who stay at home. Read Crazy Horse's post again...

Just because a woman stays home with the kids, doesn't mean it has anything to do with the husband's notion of "how women should be." My mom stayed home with my brother and I. My brother is now a doctor. I am finishing up my PhD. My dad did NOT make that decision for my mom. My mom's biggest dream in life was to be a good mom who had well-adjusted kids, because her mom was horrible and abusive. Along the way though, she also became a nurse (RN), but decided being a mom was her priority. Luckily, they could afford to do it. I will say--my brother and I LOVED it. It was so nice having our mom around a lot.

I am getting very serious with my boyfriend, and both of us will work until one of us doesn't want to. HE REALLY wants to be a stay at home dad. But he supports it if I would rather stay at home with the kids. THAT'S a real man.

Now, I'm not sure if I want to work, stay home, or do a little bit of both. I suspect that I will still end up working, but I won't be doing full time. It seems like the ideal to me.

Whatever decision a woman makes about this is her business (and her husband's!). I don't think there is a right answer that applies to EVERYONE. I think everyone's situation is different.

Good for her!! Having the freedom of choice is just THAT. Being able to make the choice to follow your own personal path to happiness, and making your own choices about what the priorities should be in your own life. After 10 years in the WWE, I think she's absolutely earned the right to go off and have her own version of a normal life, and to explore new avenues. Anything gets old after a while, including a life in the spotlight.

Money is not the measure of your contribution to the world. Just because a woman (or a man for that matter!) chooses to give up a job doesn’t mean she’s given up even one inch of her dreams, or her independence. In fact, it is the author of this article who sounds like she's given up what I thought was supposed to be the cornerstone of journalism - OBJECTIVENESS.

I think it takes a real woman to do that.More power to her!

I would if I could... But mostly because I find work boring and mundane... I hate the cubicle life and right now there is nothing flexible for me in my field... I think we as women have many ideals of what being the perfect wife would/should be... If this is what she wants to do than good for her. The things that I think would effect her the most is the lack of outside contact (unless she will still have dates with her girlfriends and such) and getting out of the workforce so she doesn't have (m)any skills anymore to get back into it. But again if that is what she wants to do than good for her... who are we to judge?

I would love to be able to stay home with my children. that would be awesome but in this economy we both need to work, if I could find something worthwhile to do from home that would still pay decent I would rather do that too.

I am a wrestling fan, and am very familiar with Lilian. Crazy Horse, you obviously know little to nothing about Lilian or professional wrestling.

She is not going to stop working at all. She's leaving a business where she would be on the road 50 weeks out of the year. Professional wrestling has a high rate of divorces, especially if the two in the marriage are in the business. I can give you a long list of wrestling stars who are now divorced. This business puts a huge strain on relationships.

Lilian is also a professional singer who, a few years ago, released a Spanish language album the WWE helped promote. She has sung the national anthem at not only WWE shows before the cameras come on, she's also done it at professional sports events (NFL, NBA etc.). She has even recorded the entrance theme for another former WWE Diva. WWE even helped promote her first album by having segments showing her in the studio. They even had her sing the first single at a televised event -- and she rocked the house!

The WWE was her life for a decade, and she wants to start a new chapter. She's only leaving because she was in a business which people in it are constantly on the road, rarely having time home with family and friends.

Well, the WWE is not exactly known for being marriage-friendly, apparently it is tough to put all of yourself into a marriage, and be in the WWE at the same time. I say good for her, she is doing what she feels is right for her.