Do you say "yes" to your coworkers, boyfriend or husband - and regret it? Do you do things you know you'll regret later, like accepting extra work assignments or lending money to a guy you've dated for a only few weeks?
If so, you're not alone.
On my article Why Couples Break Up - 10 Types of Relationship Problems, a reader asked for help standing up to her boyfriend. He keeps borrowing money from her, and gets mad when she says she doesn't want to lend more. He's gambling her money away, and she feels powerless and helpless.
To help her, I wrote How to Say No to Your Boyfriend. I don't think one of my tips was "Dump that loser!" -- but it should've been. I did say that not being a pushover makes people mad...so she has to build the mental courage to stand up to him even when he doesn't like it.
Standing up for yourself often makes people uncomfortable - and sometimes even furious. I'm a bit of a pushover, but am finding that the more I stand up for myself, the easier it gets. I know my husband will love me even if I say no! And my clients will still send me writing assignments even if I have to turn some down.
What about you - are you a pushover at work or in your relationship? What would you tell my reader, who who can't stand up to her boyfriend?
If you're a pushover, read How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty.
Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen a full-time writer and blogger; she created the "Quips and Tips" blogs:
