Here's one of those questions that comes up periodically, to be debated on blogs and over watercoolers: changing your name after marriage. I just came across a blog post by a man who explains that he'd be offended if his wife didn't take his last name. (His last name: Woodsmall.)
Why? Here's what he says:
If you're going to nag us about wearing our band during pick-up games and not leaving it by the bathroom sink after we wash our hands, then please remember to take our surname with you on your girls' night out.
Ladies, I beg of you, allow us this. For if you are asking for our devotion in sickness and in health, pride will allow it to prevail. If we feel like a man, we'll act like one. And stripping of us the honor of bestowing on you our surname is one surefire way of knocking off a chunk from that pride. [read more here. . ]
Oh-kay. While I get his reasoning, does this sound juvenile to you? Personally, I'm pretty clear that I'm never going to take my husband's name. Maybe I will informally, and definitely once kids come in the picture, I'd have no problem being called Mrs. X, but professionally, as a writer, I've spent the past 10 years building my brand. And my brand-my byline-is my name. But would that mean I'd love or respect my husband any less? While I guess it means I'll never be the next Mrs. Woodsmall, I don't think so!
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