...and other cliches. And now for today's rant. I hate trite comments, especially when the speaker is acting like we haven't heard it 10,000 times before. So when a woman I know was trying to explain the concept of Spinsterlicious to a friend, and said "it's about being single and "living every day to the fullest", I groaned (inside), smiled a weak smile and said kinda quietly "well, not exactly"...when I really meant "not even close".
Here's why: Banalities like "Live every day to the fullest" make my eyes glaze over. What does "to the fullest" really mean, anyway? It sounds exhausting to me. If I had to live Every. Single. Day. To the Fullest, I think I'd just go back to bed. It's too daunting.
When people say that, I know think they mean well, but it just feels so empty to me. I want them to be more present in the conversation.
Living every day to the fullest sounds extremely stressful to me. Does that mean I can't take a nap? No Judge Judy in the afternoon? No casual dinner at that little Thai place on the corner? Their food is good but I don't know if it would qualify for the "every day fullest" award.
So, Spinsterlicious does not describe some chick who can't relax because she's too busy being superlative. Spinserlicious means (being single, of course) enjoying the life you have...not dwelling on what's not there...having a leisurely glass of wine..."doing you" and not stressing about it. Much easier.
My next rant? "Always do your best". (Just kidding). Is it just me? Am I over-reacting? Are there cliches that make your eyes cross?
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