User post: Can someone really be a Sex Addict?

I would have to say yes on this one...

i do not believe that 'sex addiction' is a legitimate illness, but rather a smokescreen for people to hide behind when they don't have the balls to admit that they have no morals and don't give a crap about anyone but themselves. everyone seems to think that they can get away with anything these days if they hide behind a psyciatrist with a bunch of degrees, and take a lot of government approved drugs.

The entire premise of this question is subjective, some people can seemingly get addicted to anything. So I do not see why a person could not be addicted to sex. I am 32 years old, and I still want sex five or six times a day. Does this make me a addict, well no because I am married so it just makes me another guy that suffers from withdraw!

not a sex addict just love sex...

I think it becomes an addiction when you shirk responsibilities, are secretive, and lie. There is nothing wrong with enjoying serial dating when you are single, but when you are married or in a committed relationship you need to step up to the plate and separate fantasy from reality. If you cannot do that, then it's obviously a problem so I think sex addiction is very real.

I always thought that the concept of "addiction" implied some sort of painful physical withdrawal, like from caffeine, nicotine, or heroin. But now, anyone who is obsessive about anything can get labelled as an "addict" -- chocolate, shopping, gambling, even internet surfing. Lumping both these groups of activities into the definition of "addiction" debases the group that are REAL addictions. I doubt very much that Tiger Woods will go through any major physical issues now that he has been caught, any more than a compulsive shoplifter does if he/she gets caught and ends up in jail.

I think sex addiction is real, although I don't know that I would agree with another hockey fan's definition. People in affairs (with just one person) lie, shirk responsibilities, and are secretive. But they don't necessarily have an addiction. An addiction is defined as a compulsion, a need to do something even when you can see it is causing negative outcomes, and an inability to stop even if you may want to.
As for Tiger, I'm not sure if he has a sex addiction or not. He may just be a jerk who took advantage of women throwing themselves at him because he has no scruples (and thought he could get away with it). That's not the same thing.

We are all sex addicts in one way or another. If we weren't addicted to sex no one would be around to have this conversation. Sex addiction doesn't have to be with multiple partners once you've found that one person who understands your wants, needs, fetishes, fantasies the same as you understand thier own and have the same thirst like hunger to be satisfied enough to want more and more because anything less would be useless. The Priceless things in life are irreplacable. Some people settle for something that will get them through the tough times of longing for something that they can feel, but in a world this emotionally closed off due to whatever issues seems unrealistic...born with the desire to want something that exists as a myth or fairytale. To me sex addiction is more like forces of nature that draw us back to the source of life which is LOVE even though many are misled by bad habits passed down through generations. Everyone wants to be a creator of something. Some are alot closer than others and some can't fully appreciate what they have created out of ignorance, hurt or hate. I am addicted to my Wife and she is addicted to me beyond the realm of sex. In the end we all just want to be continually content, satisfied, loved and understood for the creation that we are or for what we have created. "Sex addiction," just has an evil undertone in the media and tries to fit everyone who enjoys sex in a bracket. We all sin and we all make mistakes, but the best thing about falling down is getting up and worst thing about falling down is staying down and never getting back up.

I believe there is such a thing as sex addiction as people can become as obsessed with that as they can anything else. Being unmarried with multiple sexual partners is just asking for trouble, in my opinion--you run the risk of multiple diseases as well as unwanted pregnancies and emotional issues. As far as straying outside a marriage relationship, well, that's just totally wrong. If you say the vows you should keep them. If you can't, don't get married.

It is like any other addiction, you use something to fill something that is empty within yourself. You can use food as a filler, drugs or shopping as a filler. If he felt something was lacking, maybe not even consciously, and sex made him feel better, that he started needing it more and more and it became a high for him then yes, it is an addiction.

Too much of anything is not good. so yes you can bea sex addict.

Can someone really be a sex addict? NO.

OMG..addiction.. no.. its sexual preferences...within ourselves we have many secrets or desires that we keep locked in.. if u r married and not able to satisfy ur partner then that is the responsibility of the partner thats not giving... u can be 10 different people in one if you would just stop worrying and being so inhibited... these men want it bad in nasty, dirty, playful, roleplaying ways each time... all men have secret desires.. its up to u as a woman to allow that man in ur life or woman like myself to feel comfortable enough to express there needs so we dont have to run elsewhere... this works both for men and woman.. I meet more men in there 30's that cheat.. its unreal and very sad.. there wifes do not fulfill them.. they r timid and shy and inhibited.. take some responsibility....Now there r those child molesters and such.. that is a different topic... but until u find the one person who can unleash ur sexual desires and allow u to be comfortable within urself no matter what u want sexually, we will cheat... men and woman.,figure out what ur partner wants and give it too them damit.... Im sorry to be so forward, but i was in this situation...dont reject me again and again so we have to go elsewhere.. then its ur fault not ours... there is no addiction to sex... it is healthy.. there is however many unhappy relationships with an easy fix..

Suzy,,as a fellow christian I hear what you are saying "against god"time with his wife"etc. A point clearly made with a lack of understanding it s really just not that simple.This gets personal from here,,so i will leave it at that

I think it's all a joke. i'm not saying sexual addiction does exist, but everyone tries to hide behind a condition, addiction, compulsion, what have you. It's an easy way to say "Hey, it's not my fault, I have a problem." Everyone is "messed up" to some degree, we are humans. It happens, but to lie and hide behind some addiction that actually afflicts people just makes you a douche bag IMO. He should just suck it up, admit he likes sleeping around and apologize. If he can't keep it in his pants, he should get a divorce. Really simple....

Addiction is about self control. If people who are lack of intregrity and have moral standard, they will easily fall into any BAD addiction.

very well said... bravo

What's the old saying: "Money can't buy you love, but can get you a lot of pussy!!)

I agree with Cindy above. All that plus the need for some celebrities who need to feed their ego to 'prove' to themselves that they still 'got it'. There's no reason to go outside one's marriage or relationship for more sex unless you're not getting any at home or if your partner is cruel to you or has stopped loving you altogether. If that's the case, get out of that relationship, get help, and find someone who will love and respect you. Some people give love to get sex and some give sex to get love. But for those who need a different sex partner for the variety or high......or ego stroking, they indeed are addicted and need psychological help. As for masturbation, if there is no sex partner, no one in the person's life to love and make love with, there's nothing wrong with masturbation as long as it doesn't take over your life and that's all you do.

correction: should be doesn't exist