Who looks stupider the cheating husband or his ignorant wife?

I don't think women are stupid. I think they are ostriches and prefer to live in denial. I often wonder how wives of cheating men can breathe with their heads so far down in the sand.
Pathetic really.

after i read this article i had to respond, i too believe that my husband has been cheating on me w/his bestfriends wife,he finds excuses to go to there house then lies about it why? he gets defesive when i ask him why is he spending so much time over there.he says i,m childish/insocure reminder he has done this before and, blamed it on me,he never took responcability for his actions.i cant trust him for nothing..he destroyed it. i was going to confront the wife. she supposed to be my friend we dont hang out anymore..i know in the pit of my stomach something is going on...its really hard to be intimate w/him because i dont want to catch anything from him...i dont wanna live this way i really hate him, and lost trust/respect for him i know my marriage is over.

I think, if he is caught and there is work on both your part and your husbands to work through the cheating that has occurred, then you should not be humiliated. I try to keep my head high and focus on the future...a cheating free future. My husband and I both have wronged eachother, unfortunately noone really knows about my infidelity, only his because he has a baby with another woman. I accept the child. We are in counseling. I try not to give a shit what other people think as long as I know I am doing the best I can to save my marriage and home life (we share one child and I have a son from a previous marriage, now he has a month old son). Do all you can to have what YOU want in life. Accept the things you cannot change and go from there.

Tamara, he cheated because your spelling is not past the 1st grade. yikes. I would consider hooked on phonics perhaps at that point he can be proud of what he has rather than embarrased.. just my thoughts.

As the spouse of a serial, cheating husband, I think that I am the one who looks stupid. My husband has been seen with various women and the men think "he has it going on" because he can have his cake and eat it too. I know about my husband's infidelity and disrespect for me and our marriage, yet I continue to stay married to him. The women pity me or feel that I am a fool. The one thing I don't do is sit around and worry about him when he is out. I go out and have my own fun without him.

No, I don't think you look stupid, nor do I think any of us who decide to work on our marriages instead of giving up do. Perhaps there is something inside of us which makes us take on more than "normal" women, but I wouldn't term it as stupid. Maybe crazy is a better word,lol!

so ladies i was informed by my friend that she is carrying on an affair with a married man. well she didnt jus come right and tell me but she constantly talked about him and had to see him. anyway in our community this gentleman( for lack of a better word ) is regarded as a upstanding citizen. in fact is is a coach at the local high school and they are state champions. they see each other regularly. a few times a week. they go to local spots and they have a business relationship also. he is supose to be teaching our young men how to be young men how to be young men but how can he when he has no morals. to make matters worse his son is also on this team. i see his wife and i wonder does she know. well my friend says she does and has made contact with her and the husband assures my friend she has nothing to worry about and that he is not in love with his wife. when i see her at the games she is cheering both of her men on and so is my friend at the games she can make because of her own daughters games. i question both of their morals. how could one woman do it to another woman ? he is a habitiual cheater ans she feels she is in love and so is he. the disrespect and disregard for marriage is apauling. they feel as if no one is aware of this relationship but they are so wrong. they have other friends who are okay with this behavior. i wonder what lies he tells his wife when he is with her ? if he didnt ave a family i would report this to the school board. i just might anyway . i am so disgusted ! shame on both of them.