Remember at the end of the Wizard of Oz when Dorothy realized all she had to do was say, "There's no place like home," and boom-she'd be back in Kansas? Well, get ready because what you're about to read is a little like that. We asked the Good Witch of Words (OK, her real name is Lynette Padwa and she's the co-author of 27 Powers of Persuasion) to clue us in on the phrases every woman should know to deal with these annoying situations.
Get a Bartender to Pay Attention to You
There's no bigger buzz kill than spending 15 minutes trying to order a drink. Short of yelling "Fire!" there's no way to clear out a crowded bar, so when the bartender spots you try this trick: Overtip for your first drink, be sure he/she sees what you're handing over, and say with a smile, "Be good to me." By the time you order your second round, your tipping will even out but your service will be so much better. Cosmo got drink-slingers from some of the hippest bars in the country to spill what they've learned about dating.
Stop Your Roommate from Being a Slob
Anyone that's ever had a roommate has had to stare at a sink full of dirty dishes on occasion. Problem is, everyone has a different standard of how clean their home should be. So try saying, "Hey, I know neither of us wants this place to look like a frat house, so let's set aside some time to clean together." This way you're working as a team to come up with a compromise instead of judging or leaving passive-aggressive notes. Read confessions of readers who got revenge on their roommates from hell.
Deal with a Disorganized Co-Worker
Unless you'd like to join former Jet Blue flight attendant Steven Slater in the unemployment line, you've gotta watch you say at work. Next time a co-worker tries to get you to help save her ass on something she should've done yesterday, say, "I'm happy to help if I can-I'll get to it after I do such-and-such"? Basically, you're managing opposition by giving her nothing to oppose. Nice, huh? Here's how to answer those other annoying questions co-workers ask.
Get a Raise
We know what you're thinking: You work hard and you deserve a raise. Unfortunately, you aren't alone. And while some companies are doing a bit better, they aren't exactly throwing money around. So start a more forward-thinking discussion with your boss by mentioning a common goal you have and say, "I'm willing to make a long-term commitment to help this company grow to new levels of success." Your boss probably views younger employees as job-hoppers, so saying this (and then mentioning all your hard work) will score you a raise or at least a spot on her short list for a promotion.
Make Him Ask You Out
Guys these days aren't exactly known for being big risk-takers. He wants to know you'll say yes before going out on a limb and asking you on a date. So if you sense he's into you, it's as simple as saying, "I really want to see (insert buddy movie starring Will Ferrell or any action flick with Angelina Jolie)." He'll take it from there. Plus: Find out how to ace a second date.
Have "The Talk" with Your Guy
This might sting a little: Even if your new guy is crazy about you, he's still dreading hearing the word "commitment." It's going to be a difficult conversation for him, so have it while you're in the car headed somewhere or taking a hike together-rather than over a romantic dinner where he'll be forced to look at you. Once you are in the right setting, start the convo by saying, "This has been really fun for me and I'm not seeing anyone else." When you set it up like this he'll won't feel as intimidated, so he'll be able to respond in a less defensive way.
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