As a mom, I feel lucky to have found a group of mom friends who are pretty laid back. While our parenting styles are obviously different, there isn't any (at least that I know of) judging going on. We talk about our kids. We talk about breastfeeding, potty training and preschools. However, no one tries to make their child out to be better than the others. I'm glad. Frankly, some moms scare me because they are constantly making veiled putdowns, bragging about their kids and asking passive aggressive questions. According to the urbandictionary.com, the mompetition is "the one-up rivalry that moms play making their child seem better, smarter, and/ or more advanced than yours." Here are 10 signs you have been sucked into the MOMpetition.
# 1After school, you make sure to flash your daughter's 100% Math Test at all the other parents.
# 2 When Timmy starts singing the ABC song at playgroup, you prompt your child to sing the same song in Spanish.
# 3 You frequently encourage the kids to race because you know your child is the fastest.
# 4 You complain to your mommy friends, "It's so exhausting trying to find something to challenge Phoebe."
# 5 You share your child's test scores and batting average on Facebook, frequently.
# 6 When running into acquaintances, you make sure to let each person know your son just finished his MBA program (or M.A. or Ph.D).
# 7 Your response to a mom with a sick child: "I'm so lucky. Brayden never gets sick. I breastfed him for two years."
# 8 When your child is offered some crackers the park, you say (rather than simply replying no thank you), "No, those are loaded with sodium and preservatives." Then, you pull out your own homemade, gluten-free, organic crackers.
# 9 When Sally is having a hard time taking a nap, you say, "Oh, so you never taught your child how to self-soothe."
# 10 You frequently tell stories about how your child walked by nine months, potty trained by age two, swam by age three and so on.
I think it's normal to be proud of your child's accomplishments. I think we all want to be recognized as good mothers. However, at some point, you have to ask yourself if you are trying to compete with other moms. If you are, find some new friends or just stop trying to "win" the mompetition.
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