It's Complicated: My Cheating Ex Wants Me Back
By Karen Karbo, REDBOOK
Q:
I had been in a relationship for a year when I found out that the guy was cheating on me with a married coworker. We broke up, but a month later he called me and said he wants me back in his life. I love him, but I'm worried because he still works with the woman. How can I trust him again? -J.A., 39, Washington
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A: I know you love him, but the guy has shown himself to be untrustworthy. He could have changed, sure, but until he leaves his current job, he's going to see that coworker every day. And you're going to have to believe him when he says nothing's going on. Can you really do that? More importantly, do you want to put yourself through that stress? I wish I could say this in a nicer way, but my gut tells me this ship has sailed. You deserve someone who's faithful and respects you right from the get-go.
Advice guru Karen Karbo is a mom, a teacher, and the author of the new book How Georgia Became O'Keeffe.
Do you need life advice? Send questions about perplexing friends, family, mates, colleagues, and anyone else to karenkarbo@redbookmag.com, and include your initials, age, and state. Letters may be edited for clarity and length
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