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  • 20 Life-Changing Shortcuts to Make Adulthood Easier

    Don't you want to know how to get a glass of white wine cold in five minutes?

    By Anna Breslaw

    Don't you want to know how to get a glass of white wine cold in five minutes?

    1. Always get the name of the person you are speaking with. Because an effective way to argue with some corporate person on the other line is not: "The person I spoke with last time I called Con Ed said that I'd paid my bill." That sounds like you either spoke to a ghost or are trying to scam the electric company. Save yourself some time and energy: "I spoke to Ashley, her employee number is 1234567, and she said I'd paid my bill."

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    2. Leave your heels under your desk at work and wear sneakers for the commute. It may feel fun and rom-commy to be running through the streets to work in your heels, but that wears off its charm the second you feel the first blister forming.

    3. You don't have to drop a zillion dollars on anti-aging face cream - just get a drugstore brand with retinol. Our beauty editor Carly Cardellino says that you do not

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  • 13 Dating Rules You Need to Break Immediately

    The right guy will think you're awesome whether you're eating a dainty salad or not.

    By Anna Breslaw

    The right guy will think you're awesome whether you're eating a dainty salad or not.

    1. Don't sleep with him until the _____ date. Like many of these "rules," if he's the kind of guy who's looking for a girl who follows them, he's the wrong guy. Whether you have sex in the first five minutes or the first five months, he should respect you just the same, because when a woman wants to have sex and has sex, that doesn't make her slutty. Getttt thatttt D. If you want it. OK I'll stop.

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    2. Don't ask a guy out. Just let all the guys you don't want to go out with ask you out, while you stare wistfully into your glass of wine wishing you could be having dinner with someone you actually like. Yup, that's a great rule that wastes nobody's time. DUDE. Ask a guy out if you want.

    3. Play hard to get or else IT'S ALL OVER, AND HE WILL BE TURNED OFF. Again, if you text a guy within the first 24 hours of a date

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  • 11 Things that Seem like Relationship Red Flags but Aren't

    Do you really have reason to worry?

    By Anna Breslaw

    And others that absolutely are.

    1. Not a red flag: He lives at home.

    We may officially be out of the recession now, but it's completely understandable to want to accumulate some savings by living with your parents for a while rather than spending hella bones on an apartment in a big, expensive city. You probably have some vaguely annoying thing your dates have to put up with, too. Like a recently paroled ex. Or a goiter.

    Red flag: He lives at home, mooches off his parents, and acts like an ungrateful brat.

    "MA! THE MEATLOAF!"

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    2. Not a red flag: He doesn't always pick up the check.

    Look, if you wind up dating for five years, getting married, and spending 70 happy years together until you die together while sleeping in one another's arms, that's a LOT of dinners he's expected to pay for. He may be The Guy, but you're … a human? You should be rational enough to understand that it's important for you

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  • The 4 Health Benefits of Dark Chocolate

    Dark chocolate

    By Elizabeth Stark

    A lot of scientific studies you read about often seem too good to be true, and they usually are; sadly, Croatian scientists will probably never find that 74 percent of subjects who ate only cake actually lost weight,or that a caramel latte a day will reduce your risk of stroke. But sometimes, on a few glorious occasions, it turns out something you love actually is good for you.

    I'm talking about chocolate here. So let's really talk about chocolate. Not all chocolate packs the same healthful punch - the kind you can eat with moderate abandon (an ounce or so a day) is dark chocolate, cocoa, or cacao. Look for chocolate that touts a 70 percent or greater cocoa content, and then get down to the healthy business of inhaling it. Milk chocolate and even a lot of "dark chocolate" candy bars have tons of sugar and a lot of fat either introduced or reintroduced in manufacturing. So any health benefits you get from these are going to be outweighed by the added sugar

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  • 13 Things Men Should Never Say to a Woman

    Don't say to a woman

    By Anna Breslaw

    If you call another woman a slut, I'll use your bones to make furniture.

    1. "Men are more rational, and women are more emotional." And cats like the color red, and dogs will only listen to Jason Derulo, and that ficus bush is your cousin. Oh, I thought we were making nonsense statements.

    2. "Women can't drive." We don't have, like, giant tampons for heads. Don't be a moron.

    3. "You're funny/smart for a girl." OMG thank you! I hope to rise above the ranks and someday be considered smart for a human, but this is a great honor.

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    4. "Girls all want to marry rich." Some girls want to marry rich. Other girls want to marry the person they love, whether s/he is rich or poor or an alien who uses peacock feathers as currency. And other girls don't want to get married! So like, that's how that works.

    5. "I don't get why women love assholes." Yeah, actually, that whole thing where you

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  • 13 Things that Make Guys Insecure

    Things that make guys insecureBy Frank Kobola

    We're less like Ryan Reynolds in The Proposal and more like Vince Vaughn in real life.

    1. Not having enough hair. Are we losing our hair? Can we grow a beard? We need to look like Robin Williams at the start of Jumanjior we are not a man.

    2. Having a lame "how we met" story. You're never going to have a meet cute like they do in the movies. Unfortunately, there's no way to spin "we were drunk at a frat party" into something anywhere as good as Jack saving Rose's life, let alone Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore meeting next to a dumpster in The Wedding Singer.That's way too much pressure.

    3. Being short on money. Blame the whole hunter/gatherer society aspect, but men still feel like they need to be able to provide for our family. Unless we're making Soulja Boy-buying-a-plane level money, we're always going to feel like we can do more.

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    4. Aging. No guy wants to get to the point where their whole body

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  • 12 Ways He Shows You that You're the One

    How to know if he thinks you're the one.

    By Frank Kobola

    1. He gives you a big, goofy look like he just won the lottery. He might look like an idiot, but that look means he just fell in love with you even more. He even gives it to you when you're on the couch in your sweatpants eating Doritos.


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    2. He's told you things he's never told anyone. Maybe they're mind-blowingly life changing secrets, or maybe they're just little details or insecurities he has. Either way, he feels comfortable talking to you.

    3. Sometimes he just has to kiss you. You might be looking the other way and he just kisses your ponytail, but he couldn't help it.

    4. He tries to befriend your family. He goes golfing with your dad. That is hell for some people and yet he willingly puts himself in that position.

    5. He always wants you to be a part of whatever he's doing. Even during guy's night he texts you a photo of Mike's cute dog because he knows you'll love it. Or Mike's stupid new

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  • 9 Things Guys Do that Totally Kill the Mood

    9 Things Guys Do That Kill The Mood


    By Frank Kobola

    1. Grope. Hey, baby. I'm going to get you in the mood by squeezing your boobs as hard as I can. Is this working for you?

    2. Dry hump. Let's get it started in here. Let me grind my pubic bone onto your exposed hip bone as hard as I can like I'm trying to start a friction fire.

    3. Ask to have sex. Yeah, let's set the mood by timidly asking you if we can engage in sex. Maybe we'll send you an Outlook event titled "boning" for your calendar so you can know exactly when it's going down.

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    4. Leave to pee.
    In our defense, sometimes it feels like thousands of tiny needles are struggling to escape our urethra. Still, it doesn't help when we go running off to the bathroom when you're halfway to climax.

    5. Fart. It doesn't matter if it happens before or during, that single note coming out of his butt is heralding the death of your libido.

    6. Whine. "But we didn't have sex last night. Please, can you just give me a

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  • 13 Signs He's Never Going to Commit

    Commitmentphobe

    By Anna Breslaw

    Why haven't you seen him in the daylight? (A) Because he can't commit. (B) Because he's a vampire. (C) Because he is a commitment-phobic vampire.

    1. He calls all his exes "this girl I was kinda dating" or "kinda hooking up with." If he rarely/never uses the word "ex," that could be a sign that he's had commitment issues for quite a while.

    2. He doesn't make plans more than one day in advance. Men call this, "living in the moment." Women call this, "What the hell is wrong with you? I'm too busy for this shit."

    3. He doesn't refer to you as a couple in the future. And this isn't just like, "When do I get to meet your mother?" or any obvious future-stuff like that. I just mean things like "Next month it'll probably be warm enough for us to barbeque," or "We should see Step Up 2 The Streets: The Threequel when it comes out this summer."

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    4. And you are hyper-aware of not mentioning the future around him,

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  • 20 Things No One Tells You About Wedding Planning

    Wedding planningBy Amy Odell and Lori Fradkin

    You won't get Champagne when you try on dresses, despite what rom coms would have you believe.

    1. The part where you gaze longingly at cocktails in mason jars on Pinterest and decide what your wedding "look" will be really only lasts five minutes. Most of your time is spent researching and interviewing vendors, reviewing contracts, writing checks, and trying to get through the never-ending next items on your to-do list.

    2. The longer you plan the longer you, well, plan. If you book your venue 15 months in advance thinking you can get around to the rest of the planning in eight months, you are wrong! As soon as you start planning, expect to be planning until it's all done. So, if you don't actually want to spend a year or more planning, don't start until you're ready to just full-on go for it and totally wedding-up your schedule.

    3. That said, if you want to get married on a weekend in a place where it's only warm outside a couple months out of

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