Look what I just found in Orion's backpack. I have no words.” It was posted by a friend whose 5-year-old son is in kindergarten. For those of you not familiar with the LMFAO song (or the way little kids spell), it says, “My sister is sexy and she knows it.” I laughed out loud — one of those cringe-y, I’ve-so-been-there but I’m-glad-this-is-not-me laughs. And then I liked it. The comment section lit up with smiley face emojis and “you should frame this!” declarations. My friend’s husband (jokingly) added: “The one I found says, ‘I got pashun in my pants and I ayntt afrayed to show it.’” Clearly, they’re laughing about it, which is exactly what my husband and I would do. But there is an underlying issue here that plagues my family as well: The radio is a minefield of inappropriateness and when you like listening to music (or frequent places where music is played, like, I don’t know, Earth), it can be hard toI was perusing Facebook the other day and up popped this photo with the caption “Read More »from What One Mom Found in Her Son’s Backpack. Funny or Not So Much?
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certainly not anti, but we’ve always tried to limit screen time. Then we had a third child. Add to that the winter that wouldn’t quit and more and more technology seeped into our routine. Before I knew it, my older kids (6 and 4) were like addicted little zombies constantly asking to play/watch/touch. They would put the TV on without asking. I’d find them hiding behind the couch with the iPad. They tried to snatch our iPhones from our hands and when they’d be Skyping with my in-laws on the iPad, my son would flip the screen to sneak in a little Minecraft.I’m not a fan of letting my kids watch a lot of television or play endless video games. We have an iPad and more TVs than I care to admit so I’m
It wasn’t that they were glued to these things 24/7 (they weren’t), it’s that they came to expect the screen time rather than view it as a treat. I worried they had become so dependent that we couldn’t go back. Because I’d become dependent too — when you’re juggling three young kids and aRead More »from The Parenting Experiment That Saved My Sanity
There are a lot of things strangers say to parents that come off as judgy, meddling or just plain stupid. The worst, of course: When are you due? When you are not, in fact, due … ever. (Been there and not wanting to be there again is the number one reason I’m attempting sit-ups these days.). But another cringe-worthy question has been coming up for me a lot lately and I want to discuss. Here’s what I’m talking about: Read More »from The Stranger Comment That Makes Me Cringe
I was on the security line at the airport with my four-month-old baby in the Bjorn and a friendly woman started chatting us up …
Friendly woman: “Oh, he’s so cute. Look at his eyes! What a big boy. How old is he? He’s soooo smiley. I love his boots!”
I smiled and nodded and answered all of her questions. We kept chatting. She told me about her grandson and how he isn’t as big as my boy yet and finally, about five minutes in, it happened…
Friendly woman: “So, what’s his name?”
Me: “Um, well, actually…she’s a girl and her name is Molly.”
Then this poor woman back-peddled and
Yesterday morning I rolled into Dunkin' Donuts with my 4-year-old daughter who had just rolled out of bed — and looked like it. She was still in her nightgown, bare-legged, hair an unruly mess, giant red rain boots covering her sockless feet (we couldn't find her sneakers, naturally). To say she looked like a ragamuffin is putting it kindly. She doesn’t get bed head, she gets bed dreadlocks and they were in full effect because, well, hair brushing is way too strenuous an activity to attempt before 9 a.m. Fortunately, I was wearing actual clothes. Read More »from The Mom Move I Never Thought I’d Make
Still, I never would have thought I'd be the kind of mom who would leave the house with disheveled kids in tow. In my pre-kid days I probably would have judged any parent who stepped out like that. I mean, how hard can it be to get everyone dressed in the morning? (Um, turns out it can be very hard some days, am I right?) But there I was. And you know what? I didn’t care.
If she was my first kid, I would have been embarrassed to have her in
been there, said that), it wasn’t inappropriate enough to get her thrown out of pre-K, but it was jarring nonetheless. The offending phrase: tennis shoes. Oh, the horror!The other night I heard something very disturbing come out of my 4-year-old daughter’s mouth. It wasn’t a four-lettered word beginning with F (Read More »from Five Phrases I Never Want My Kids to Say
You see, I am from New York, and we currently live in New York, but my husband is from Michigan so certain Midwestern phrases and pronunciations have made their way into our home. And I’ve had to correct them, obviously. For example, my name is Ehr-in, not Ear-in; we drink Ar-ange juice not Oar-ange juice, and we wear sneakers, not tennis shoes. Call it regional dialect pride or linguistic snobbery, but I like the way we say things here. And, like most people, I think our way is the right way. (Check out this awesome map of all the different ways people speak in the U.S.)
I was raised on the north shore of Long Island, then went to the University of Tennessee for college (let’s
- Erin Zammett Ruddy | Parenting – Tue, Apr 1, 2014 1:03 PM EDT
As the parent of a 6-year-old, I’m constantly fielding questions I have a tough time answering. What are eyeballs made of? Why can’t I live with you forever? But how do babies get in your belly? The latest: “Does Lebron James really eat McDonald’s?!”Read More »from How Lebron James is Making My Life as a Mom Harder
We’ve been watching a lot of March Madness at our house, so my son has caught a few glimpses of the fast food chain's commercial starring Lebron James. In it, James joins some secret McDonald’s club (password: special sauce) where Johnny Manziel and other top athletes are members. They all have the privilege of eating the new Bacon Clubhouse Sandwich, a burger topped with cheese, bacon, onions, and more. Why I’m not loving it: My son is obsessed with Lebron James and totally confused by the fact that he would be singing the praises of fast food, which I’ve always told him is not healthy. “Isn't Lebron James the strongest, most healthiest man in the world, Mom? How come he's eating that?!"
My son is really into sports, so we talk a lot about
Having little kids is great for so many reasons. One of the best: You get to relive your own childhood and watch movies from that childhood. My kids are 6 and a half, 4, and 4 months old, so they’re not quite ready for "Police Academy" or "Weird Science" or "Summer Rental" (my all-time fave) but there are some more age-appropriate flicks in my mental queue that my older one would definitely appreciate soon. And my husband and I would, too. We don’t watch a ton of TV, but every once in a while a family movie night is just what the doctor ordered. And there’s only so much Pixar animation an adult can handle, right?Read More »from Four '80s Movies Kids Today Totally Need to See
Over Christmas we watched "A Christmas Story" and "Home Alone" with the kids for the first time. It was one of the highlights of the holiday season, though it did backfire a little when my 4-year-old daughter started saying “I’m gonna give you till the count of 10 to get your ugly, yella, no good keister off my property before I pump your guts full of lead. 1, 2, 10….”
This isn’t a post about baby giggles or exciting firsts or even that well-deserved glass of wine at the end of the day. Plenty is written about those parenting perks. Today I want to talk about an underexploited joy of motherhood: How we learn to enjoy the hell out of some seriously mundane crap when we actually get to do it alone. Read More »from The Secret Joys of Being a Mom
It may sound a little sad but it’s true. Once you have kids, something as simple as food shopping solo becomes like a day at the spa. Tooling around Target? Yes, please! A wait at the doc’s office? No problem, pass that Bon Appetit magazine from 2012. Airport delay? Four words: Book and Bloody Mary. Moms enjoy actually enjoyable things too but this ability to find bliss in the previously blissless is a great side effect of motherhood. Maybe a superpower, even.
I was with a few stay-at-home mom friends the other day and one told us she had just been selected to report for jury duty. We all groaned for her, but then I recalled my own recent jury duty
- Erin Zammett Ruddy | Parenting – Fri, Mar 21, 2014 12:12 PM EDT
Ryan Dunne, a Colorado 9-year-old who loves to read, paint, play with his friends and dance. In a few years, he will be confined to a wheelchair.Meet Read More »from A New Drug Could Save This Boy’s Life — But He Can’t Get it
When Ryan was 3, he was diagnosed with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, a genetic disorder that causes progressive muscular degeneration. “Ryan’s muscles have basically been breaking down since the day he was born,” says Ryan’s father Chris Dunne. Kids with DMD (it mostly affects boys) usually end up in wheelchairs by age 11 and, thanks to the loss of lung and heart functions, don’t often live past early adulthood. “Every day that goes by I watch my son get weaker and weaker,” says Dunne. “He can’t climb stairs anymore, he can’t play sports with his friends anymore or ride the school bus.” Indeed, it is a heartbreaking condition with very little hope for the future — until now.
For the first time ever, there’s a promising new DMD drug under investigation. In early trials Sarepta Pharmaceuticals found that the drug — called eteplirsen —
he can now advocate for himself. "Does it have peanuts in it?" comes out of his mouth before anything new goes in. But something else has set in recently that I didn’t anticipate: Anxiety.My six-year-old son is severely allergic to peanuts, a discovery we made when he was just 13 months old. We’ve managed the allergy well over the years and it’s gotten easier lately since Read More »from The Sad Side Effect For Kids With Food Allergies
Alex has had two peanut-related panic attacks in the past two weeks. It is heartbreaking to witness and, as I learned, completely normal: "You never see anxiety like this in younger kids but once they get to four or five years old, they start to develop logical thinking," says Mark L. Goldstein, Ph.D., a Chicago-based clinical psychologist and author of "Chronic Disorders in Children and Adolescents." "They can put two and two together and realize there is something very scary going on.” Scary as in they can die from something they eat.
The first episode happened in my mom’s car after I’d eaten a piece of chocolate