Blog Posts by Marni

  • We know you're really busy, and we get it: you work a ton, have 200-plus emails to answer before noon, can barely fit in time to see your girlfriends, and already wake up at o'dark thirty to hit the gym. When it comes to dating, you feel like you may be single forever due to your stacked schedule. After all, online dating itself takes hours and going to meet men over coffee every weekend is something that seems an absolute, total waste of time!

    Sound familiar?

    The thing is, LOTS of people are really busy. If you think about it, many of the world's busiest people are either married or in serious relationships; that is, of course, if you consider people like Bill Gates, Barack Obama or Yahoo CEO Marissa Mayer "busy."

    We certainly do. And yet they somehow carved out the time not just to date their partner but be with them fully. So unfortunately, if you're telling yourself that you're super busy and maybe you're just meant to be single...well, we don't buy it and neither

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  • If you are a strong, successful woman who's been lacking a healthy, fulfilling relationship, chances are there are a few reasons why you may feel like you're still single.

    Limiting beliefs - beliefs you hold from the past that are limiting your present life and lifestyle - are some of the biggest reasons why people don't get what they want. If you find yourself successful in some areas in life (like your career) but not so successful in others (like LOVE), you may need to step back and think about the reasons you think you might be single.

    Are these any of your reasons for why you're single?

    It's hard to meet good men where I live.

    Good guys all want younger women!

    Good guys want to be with me because I'm successful and they want me to take care of them.

    Men are actually intimidated by strong, independent women.

    My town is full of guys I don't want to be with.

    The good news is, you're not alone. The bad news is that limiting beliefs like the

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  • You're happy with the direction your career is going, and that's great! You're in good shape, excellent health, and have a wonderful circle of friends: awesome! Do you still find yourself wondering why you haven't caught the train that will bring true love into your life?

    Chances are you're among those strong, successful women who are being tripped up by a few limiting beliefs that are keeping them single. We suspect, then, that you might be one of of us in the Dating with Dignity community who's guilty of "doing your life" and then waiting - or even hoping - for someone to waltz into your life. Have you ever thought to yourself, "Love will just happen" or "This will work itself out"? Or, "If I just keep putting myself out there, then Mr. Right will bump into me at Starbucks"?

    As much as that is a nice thought, you're probably going to be rudely awakened when you wait, and wait, and wait, AND wait. After all, if 2013 was going to be your year and NOTHING has changed since

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  • Pros and Cons of Living Together Before Marriage

    If you're in a long-term relationship in 2013, you've probably thought about shacking up with your mate. If you aren't yet in a serious relationship, this will definitely be a topic of conversation that comes up-and one that you'll need to be prepared for. There are certainly both pros and cons to living together before marriage.

    In order for you to make an informed decision, we have a list of Dating with Dignity pros and cons of living together before marriage:


    Financial Relief

    If you've been footing the bill solo for an apartment or house for a while, going splitsies on rent can be pretty amazing. Not only would you be sharing rent, but you'd split also all living costs as well! The days of your own grocery and cable bills will be long gone, and saving up for a down payment on a house or car can seem much more attainable when you have someone to share the financial pressure. This can be especially important if you feel you've been spending almost all your days

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  • The art of texting in dating and relationships is a skill on which most of us could improve. In the age of constant contact via social media and especially texting, there are some Dating with Dignity guidelines to successfully navigate this world within your relationships.

    When it comes to texting and relationships, there's a fine line between keeping him interested and driving him away. So are you guilty of over-texting your guy? Here are a few ways to find out:

    1. If your text is longer than the length of your thumb, it's TOO LONG.
    Texting is a great medium for communication, especially when it comes to things like wishing someone good luck on an interview or confirming a meeting place. It can also be great in a relationship to send a quick note letting your guy know you're thinking about him (provided you aren't only going into date number two). But if you're dating a new guy or in a relationship and your text is so long it has to be divided into three paragraphs,

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  • The DWD Guide to the Friend Zone!

    Attention all Dating with Dignity daters: The Friend Zone is not always a bad thing! We've all had a crush on a male friend at some point or another; maybe you even ended up in a relationship with one of these guys. However, like it or not, male friends are not always going to like you back in the same way you're interested in them.

    But wait! This can be a GREAT thing. "How can this possibly be a good thing?" you ask. Let us tell you four ways.

    1. Bounce your current dating situation off an actual male, and you may actually get SOLID advice.

    Let's face it: Asking your lady friends can be a good idea sometimes. But in reality, women don't always give the best advice to their friends. (Which is why a session with a professional dating coach can be the best decision you make this year.) But if you aren't ready for that, start with a male friend who can actually give you the male perspective on what's going on in your love life; often, it can be extremely insightful!


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  • Online Dating Advice for Women that You Need to Know

    Online dating is a new realm for many women. It can be daunting, as well as confusing, so here's some need-to-know online dating advice for women to make navigating the online dating "jungle" a little bit easier.

    1. Make your profile great.
    One of the keys to successful online dating is a well written profile. When it comes to profile text, be brief and unique. Men don't want to read the usual "blah blah blah" of why you are fabulous, a list of your hobbies, and how you "work hard and play hard." Instead, use language that enables him to imagine, in his mind's eye, the two of you doing the things you love to do together!

    Specificity will make you stand out! For example, rather than saying "I love to go to jazz clubs and hike in Runyon Canyon," you could say, instead, "If we are a match, the perfect weekend may include checking out the latest jazz club, staying up just a bit too late, sleeping in guilt free, lots of cuddle time, and then spending our afternoon on the

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  • 7 Give-Away Signs He Wants a Relationship

    Sometimes it can be hard to tell just what your new man is looking for. If you've just started dating, and things are going great, you can begin to collect data to determine if he is Mr. Quality Casual, or is actually at a place in his life that he wants a relationship. Learn how to recognize the seven give-away signs he wants a relationship so you can find lasting love and partnership:

    1. He is truly attentive to you. A man who is ready to settle down, really listens when you talk. He comfortably makes eye contact, asks questions about your life, hopes, dreams and even is amused by the quirky story about your cat! He will also ask for your input, and make you a core part of your conversations.

    2. He wants to see you all the time. Although it might not be right away, he will want to see you at minimum one or two times a week (if not more, based on your work schedules). He will call/text you at regular intervals. He wants to see you as much as it is humanly possible!

    3. He

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  • How to Get Him to Commit with 3 Simple Rules

    If you're like most women out there who are dating but not yet in a serious relationship, it's probable that you're curious about how to get your current guy to commit. Perhaps it seems like it's headed in that direction, but you want to be sure. Or maybe it's something new and you want to know if and when it will have a future.

    It's really confusing when a guy acts like he's very interested in and cares about you, but he makes no steps to commit to you. Ladies, welcome to the club. The truth is that if you want your membership in this club to be temporary, it requires that you don't just "wait it out," hope it changes, or avoid the topic.

    To get started, make sure you feel pretty darn certain that he feels the same way about being in a relationship with you. If you feel like you can't wait for him to bring it up first, here are some Dating with Dignity moves you can make right now into the land of committed relationships. Read on to learn how to get him to commit!


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  • The 5 Best Places to Meet Men

    Turns out that if you feel like you're running out of places to meet men (read: you've had enough of friends trying to set you up with "this amazing guy"), fear not dignity dater! We've compiled a list of the five best places to meet the "good men" for your consideration.

    However, before we dig into the "where" and "how" of meeting good men, know that it's time to take this dating challenge to a deeper level. You see, among the biggest obstacles in dating are having beliefs that feel like absolute truths. And, of course, these beliefs are based on your experiences.

    That said, it's important to know that these beliefs are not the 100% absolute truth in 100% of the cases. And, if you choose to hold on to these beliefs as your absolute truth, then it will eventually limit your lifestyle, your date-ability, and ultimately your results.

    If you are of the belief that:

    • § There are no good men in my town. (Women believe this is true, whether they're from Fargo, Miami, or Sioux
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