Blog Posts by MJ Acharya

  • Want to get over your ex more quickly? Start by changing your breakup tunes.

    Okay, so you've been dumped and it sucks. And still, weeks later, you're listening to the radio and getting your ears involved in all the wrong songs . But do you know that by assaulting your ears with these woeful songs, you're actually inhibiting your recovery? You are purposefully putting yourself in a depressed state of mind, because, let's face it, music makes the mood. I'm all for having a Pity Party after a breakup, but after weeks - or even months - it has to stop.

    So how do you get out of this rut and change your state of mind? It's simple. Start by changing your breakup tunes.

    For example:

    • If you've been cheated on, stop listening to "Secret Lovers" by Atlantic Starr and start listening to "Breathe" by Maroon 5.
    • If you were with a man that you were going to get married to, stop listening to "Endless Love" by Diana Ross & Lionel Richie and start listening to "Miss Independent" by Kelly Clarkson.
    • If you were dumped by a man who continues to spread rumors
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  • Do any of you men and women watch Entourage? Well on this week's episode, Season 6, Episode 10 "Berried Alive," Eric broke up with his girlfriend, Ashley, just the way that you're supposed to break up with a person. Since a lot of you ask me how to break up with someone the right way, I think this episode is a good guide.

    Eric met Ashely in a restaurant, ordered drinks and then told her exactly how he felt. He told her that she said that she wasn't crazy when they first met, even though she acted nuts, and he gave her the benefit of the doubt. However, she only calmed down for a short while and then funneled her "crazy" back into the relationship. He then gave specific examples as to why everything she does "points to crazy." Ashley totally blew up in the restaurant, but she only ended up making a fool of herself.

    Eric was honest, up front and didn't leave the conversation with a, "Can we still be friends?" He basically said, "So long. See you around." He made a clean break

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  • Beat Relationship De'Ja Vu

    When you begin dating again after a break up, it's easy to fall into the same dating rut with a new person. This could be because the individual you're dating is a mirror image of your ex, or because you are acting out the same relationship that you had with your ex. For example, he may mirror your ex in looks, actions, personal beliefs and motivations. So if you used to date an alcoholic and your new boyfriend is an alcoholic, you may be attracted to someone you need to take care of. If you used to date a control freak and now you're dating another one, you may be attracted to men that are overbearing and insecure about your activities when he is not around.

    Be careful Broken Hearted Girl. If things start going down a path that you're very familiar with (the same path you went down with your ex), use your head and not your heart. Here are some things you can do to beat relationship deja vu.

    Pay attention to your friends' and family's reactions to your new beau. If they tell

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  • Why should you follow the "no contact" rule after a breakup?

    A lot of people ask me, "why should I follow the 'no contact' rule? When do I decide to start it? What does it do for me? What can I hope for it to accomplish in the end?" And I'm all for helping you. So I'm going to try to answer this question as best as I can, given the knowledge I've gained from speaking with literally thousands of broken hearts all around the world.

    (These rules apply to BOTH men and women, but since I'm a woman, I wrote it from a woman's POV).

    When should I start "no contact"? Start it when you:

    • Call, text or email him relentlessly after the breakup, only to receive no response.
    • Drive by his house and/or work to confront him, or just to catch a glimpse of him.
    • Call his friends and family members to talk about him, only to receive no response, or a cold reception.
    • In addition to these points, begin "no contact" if you do anything in general that makes you feel like a complete fool.

    What does following the "no contact" rule do for

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  • LeAnn Rimes and Eddie Cibrian openly dating. Too soon?

    Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt began publicity dating immediately after Pitt's split from Jennifer Anniston was announced (probably even before then). And now, LeAnn Rimes and Eddie Cibrian were spotted recently out on the links in Valencia, CA. Both separated from their spouses about a month ago. Do you think it's too soon for them to be seen together? When is it appropriate to start publicly dating someone after a separation?

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  • 4 Things to Consider Before Mutual Separation

    So you and your partner have decided to separate. And now you have to chart this new territory. If your separation is mutual and you and your partner are both interested in working on the relationship, then here are some things to consider:

    1) Set a period of time for the separation. Be it 1 month or 6 months, agree on the length of time.

    2) Figure out your love lives. If you're really interested in working on the relationship, then agree to a NO DATING rule.

    3) Go to counseling if you can both agree to it. If you're going to work on the relationship, then a counselor can be a great facilitator to reaching that common goal.

    4) Set some contact rules. If you're going to be apart, then be apart. Only make phone calls when necessary. You'll see one another at counseling every week, so take this time alone to grow.

    Feel better!


  • A New Tip to Help You Get Over Your Ex

    Dear BrokenHeartedGirl,

    A lot of people ask me the complicated question that goes - "how do I get over my ex?" And I think everyone knows that you can't answer that question in one article. Everyone has a different situation, a different timeline and different values. It's unfair to lump everyone into one category, which is why I offer a book that tailors your breakup recovery exercises to your specific situation. But here's a tip that everyone can use:

    You know how when you break up with your ex, he's (she's) the only thing you can think about? You stare at your computer and think about him, you watch television and every movie reminds you of him, you hang out with your girlfriends and every guy at the bar/restaurant/ice cream parlor looks like him? It's torture, right? But that's not the worst part. The worst part is when you're lying in bed at night and all you can think about are all of the intimate times you shared with him. Or you lie in bed and just replay every

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  • Is it Okay to Dump Your Fiance over Email?

    So, we all heard earlier this week that Richard Jefferson dumped his wife before their wedding day. "Okay, that sucks," I thought, "but at least they figured it out before they were married."

    Today I was at the party store and Inside Edition or something was on and I heard that Jefferson actually dumped his fiance, Kesha Ni'Cole via email. I couldn't believe it, so I went home and started searching the internet. Sure enough, it actually happened that way.

    Now we all know how I feel about dumping a person electronically but it does happen. But I figured that was just for people who were dating and wanted to take the coward's way out. Ok, I have heard someone on my forum speak about how she was told she was getting divorced over email, but I figured that was a rare anomaly. I never thought (however naively) that someone in the public spotlight would be crude enough to dump his fiance via email the eve before their wedding - KNOWING that it would get out to the public and he'd look like

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  • Morgan Freeman Sex Scandal? Hasty reporting.

    The National Enquirer reported that Morgan Freeman and his wife were filing divorce papers just about a year ago.

    They then reported that Morgan Freeman and his wife were getting divorced because he was having an affair with his step-granddaughter.

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    They are now reporting that Morgan Freeman is going to marry his step-granddaughter, a la Woody Allen.

    Now, the Enquirer was the first to break news of the John Edwards affair, so I understand why some of the major blogs are picking up this story and citing it as fact. However, it is the National Enquirer. Lest you forget, some of their past headlines include: Town in panic over 2,000 UFO sightings' and `I'm a Cher wannabe in a man's body.'

    All the sources cited in this disturbing Morgan Freeman story are "family friends." Nothing has been confirmed by a publicist, so basically this is all rumor and conjecture. So before you go posting the story on your blog as FACT, remember the source of the story.

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  • The Top 5 Worst Ways to Break Up With Someone

    Breakups are hard on everybody involved. In today's world of instant communication and social networking, it's easy to write someone off without calling them or speaking with them face-to-face . But in doing so, you're making yourself out to be a "Class-A" jerk and you're inviting a great deal of stress into your life.

    If you think about it, when you dump someone electronically, the dumpee ends up with a lot of questions - which usually leads to an immediate barrage of phone calls, voicemails, IM's and emails. Not to mention the fact that the person will probably show up at your house demanding answers.

    Of course there are exceptions to every rule, but if you've been dating someone for over a month or more, you should avoid these breakup scenarios:

    (1) Text Message: Ask anybody and they know someone that has been dumped via text message. And you know what? Only the lowest of the low break up with their partners over text message. Imagine being with someone for months (or

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