We've all been there: you reach the bottom of your grande iced decaf soy mocha and you know, in your heart of hearts, that you'd rather see Oprah and Jerry Springer thumb-wrestling naked than go on a second date with this person. How do you end things before they've even really officially begun?
If you can pull it off, a simple "It was nice seeing/meeting you" is all you need to say. If you can exit a first date with those final words, you're not obligated to do any follow-up work. You'll need to resist your natural instinct to make promises you can't or won't keep. If you can't bear to be so blunt, add an "I'll email you" to wrap things up nicely. Of course, that means you are required to follow through. Take solace in the fact that it is infinitely easier to let someone down gently over email. If, in a moment of weakness, you accidentally blurt out "I'll call you," then you've got to call. Think of it as good dating karma.
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