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  • What STDs Should You Get Tested For?

    Every few weeks, Dr. Vanessa Cullins, a board-certified obstetrician/gynecologist and vice president for medical affairs at Planned Parenthood® Federation of America, answers sexual health questions at To ask her your own question, click here.

    Dear Dr. Vanessa,

    I'm a woman in her early '30s with a pretty active sex life. I always use condoms, but I know those don't protect you 100%. What STD tests should I ask my doctor for, and how often should I get tested?

    - Testy

    Dear Testy,

    It's FANTASTIC that you protect yourself by using condoms every time you have sex. Condoms are the best way for sexually active people to protect ourselves. All condoms except lambskin condoms offer very good protection against HIV. They also substantially reduce the risk of other sexually transmitted infections, including chlamydia, chancroid, gonorrhea, hepatitis B, herpes, HPV, pelvic inflammatory disease, syphilis, and trichomoniasis.

    But you are right - even if

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  • 10 Steps to Climaxing Without a Vibrator

    For the record, just because an orgasm is battery-powered, doesn't make it any less awesome. That said, we do understand the desire to climax unplugged. Especially if the sex toy that does it for you is a really strong vibrator - those vibes aren't always the most discreet. Sometimes it can seem like you're sharing a bed with a birthing cow. So here are 10 things that might help improve your self-love sessions:

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  • Em & Lo's 1st Annual Hotscars

    The best and worst of on-screen sex and love we saw in 2009:

    • Most Disappointing Sex Scene: The Na'vi love scene in AVATAR. Um, how could their tails NOT mesh? We're waiting for the unrated version on Blu-Ray and it better deliver.
    • Couple with Least Chemistry: Meryl Streep and Steve Martin in IT'S COMPLICATED
    • Best Love-Conquers-All Message: DISTRICT 9
    • Best Fodder for the Fantasies of Women Married with Kids: 17 AGAIN
    • Sweetest Love Story: UP (Also wins for Best First 10 Minutes of Any Movie Ever)
    • Best Idea with Worst Execution: JENNIFER'S BODY
    • Most Romance: (500) DAYS OF SUMMER (Lo loved it)
    • Least Romance: (500) DAYS OF SUMMER (Em hated it)
    • Most Unattractive Love Interest: Jeff Bridges in CRAZY HEART. The Dude should get an Oscar just for being willing to look so gross (e.g. the passed-out-in-his-underwear-next-to-the-toilet scene)
    • Best Gender Role Reversal: UP IN THE AIR
    • Most
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  • How Long Can a Virgin Make a Guy Wait?

    Dear Em & Lo,

    I'm a 26-year-old virgin and, while I'm not waiting for marriage, I am waiting for the right guy. You know, that guy that won't pressure me for sex because it's the 3rd date or break up with me after 3 months because I'm not ready. And yes, both of those situations have happened, on more than one occasion. As I get older, it seems more impossible to find a guy that will wait for sex. I want someone to respect me and make me feel safe enough to want to share that with him, because if a guy can treat me like crap after a nice evening where I cooked dinner and he didn't get any, then imagine how much worse I would have felt had I given in and slept with him.

    So, I guess my questions are: are there guys out there that will wait and respect me, how long is too long for him to wait, and what do guys think about a girl making them hold out for sex? I have male friends that respect me for waiting but, guys I date -- that's something else.

    -- The 26-Year-Old Virgin

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  • We Ask the Guys: Can a Booty Call Ever Blossom?

    Advice from three of's guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,"If a guy's in a booty call relationship with a woman, is there a chance he'd ever want to actually date her, could it ever blossom into something more?"

    jay_dyckmanjay_dyckmanGay Single Guy (Jay Dyckman): The bottom line in any booty call relationship is that there's no chance it'll become something more while it's ongoing. The only way for a booty call relationship to blossom into something more is to Cut. Off. That. Booty. Shut it down. Pull up the pants. Get out the Do Not Enter sign underwear. No one buys the cow when they're getting milked for free. If there's really something there, a booty embargo should answer whether the person is really interested in being with you.

    tyler_barnett_100tyler_barnett_100Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): Most guys have that one girl that they know they can call -- after a few drinks, late at night, they're lonely -- to come over and hit the sheets. Typically he has no interest in taking things any further

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  • 5 Things You Should Know About the PS-Spot

    Unless you've been living in a cave, you know exactly what the G-spot is, and you probably know where it is, too -- an area on the front wall of the vagina a few inches in that, when stimulated, can result in extreme pleasure, explosive orgasms, and even female ejaculation…well, at least for some women. Thanks to a number of studies on the anatomy and sexual response of this area over the past few decades, the G-spot has become the It Girl of female sexuality.

    But what about the PS-spot? The PS-who?

    That's exactly the reaction we got when we asked a group of sexually sophisticated women and their partners about this area opposite the G-spot: "Never heard of it", and "The G-spot is hard enough to find, let alone something with 2 letters", and "Is that similar to treacle sponge?" If the G-spot is the It Girl, the PS-spot is its red-headed step-sister. So here's some info to help you get to know her better, because she can really be quite nice:

    1. What the PS-spot is
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  • Is It Possible to Get Addicted to Your Vibrator?

    Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions on once a week. To ask her your own question, click here.

    Dear Dr. Kate,

    I use my vibrator pretty much every night, and the vibrations are incredibly intense (it's an external, clitoral vibrator). Are there any risks with doing this? Lack of sensitivity, nerve-damage, addiction, etc…?

    - Turned On

    Dear T.O.,

    As long as you're never in pain, there shouldn't be any damage done to your clitoris or vulva, no matter how often you play. Pain is your body's way of saying that things aren't right and need to change…so no pain means you're not hurting your body. If something hurts, then stop. Remember that booze and drugs cloud your judgement in this regard. [Aside from Em & Lo: Friends don't let friends diddle drunk!] And I've never heard of someone developing a callous on their clit, or about developing lack of sensitivity.

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  • How to Turn Your Headphones Into a Bedside Accessory

    You know the basic idea of sensory deprivation, right? You limit one or more senses, and the others get stronger. Limit everything but touch, and your orgasm will feel like the center of the universe. You may have done this without even knowing you were practicing sensory deprivation - with a blindfold, for example.

    But here's a sense you might not have played with before: hearing. Well, ear plugs aren't just for construction workers and insomniacs, and noise-canceling headphones aren't just for prissy cubicle workers. Controlling your partner's soundtrack (or lack of one) takes sensory deprivation to a whole new level, especially when combined with a blindfold. If white noise is too nerdy for you, make a booty mix on your iPod and have your partner listen to it through headphones.

    Headphones and earplugs insulate your partner from aural clues and distractions like your breathing or the dog barking, making it harder for them to anticipate your touch. They can only hear

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  • We Ask the Guys: What Are the Best Condoms for Men?

    Advice from three of's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "What are the best condoms for guys? And please don't say the imaginary kind. We want brand names…" (Click here to ask the Wise Guys your own question.)


    Gay Single Guy (Daniel): Don't be surprised that the best condoms are made by the Japanese. The two best are Crown Skinless Skin Condoms and Beyond Seven Condoms, both made by Okamoto. Crown is extra thin and feels like you don't have anything on, and Beyond Seven are made from Sheerlon, a kind of latex that can be made thinner than regular rubber without compromising strength.


    Straight Married Guy (Fred): I'm not exactly a connoisseur of condoms these days (being married and all), but from my experience it would have to be Durex Extra Sensitive. Hands down. They're the closest thing to wearing nothing that I found. It appears Durex has something else called Sensi Thinwhich sounds pretty good, too. When last I checked, Trojans were like being wrapped with duct tape. I've never tried lambskin 'cause that's nasty.


    Straight Single Guy (Colin Adamo): In May I graduate from college. I'll have to start cooking for myself, paying rent and - gasp- paying for my own condoms. For most of my sexually active tenure I've employed whatever my university decides should be distributed en masse in baggies attached to bulletin boards in residential buildings. I have a laundry list of condoms to try down the road - Trojan's Twists, their newEcstasy brand, Proper Attire Dots Condoms, Lifestyle's Tuxedo, my most favoritely-marketed Strapped Condoms (stay strapped!), and basically everything in Babeland's luxury condom display. But to this point my prophylactic experience has been limited to a handful of condoms that have my varying degree of approval.

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  • 7 Ways to Seduce a Guy

    Let's face it: seducing guys ain't that hard. A little cleavage and some footsie is pretty much all it takes. The challenge is making your moves really memorable. What follows are seven classic approaches to seduction that you can make your own - and have fun doing it. Got a favorite that we left out? Share it in the comments section below!
    1. The Detective: It's the quintessential seduction technique: Show up at his door in a trench coat, heels and not much else. It's a bold move that takes nerve and confidence. But before you bust it out, just be sure a) he's home, b) he doesn't have company, and c) you've got a backup outfit in your purse in case of emergencies. And don't feel obligated to wear the traditional lace garter-belt ensemble underneath. An oversized "Go Mets!" T-shirt, especially if he's a fan, might work just as well. What's sexier than a sense of humor?
    2. The Anais Nin: In an email, text or-get this-a handwritten lust note (yes, they still make nice pens), tell him

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