Dear Em and Lo,
As a guy, I've always felt a little distrustful about my sense of commitment. I know that I can sometimes get freaked out a little too easily over long-term plans, even if just talking about it. Throughout the few romantic entanglements I've been in, I've never had a clear feeling that I could "see a future with them." So, my question is this: if I'm in a pretty solid long-term relationship, should I be worried if I can't "see" being with them for all my life?
- One Eye on the Door
First of all, we love how you put "see a future with them" in quotation marks, as if the very phrase itself is foreign to you. Talk about commitment issues!
Then again, maybe not. You always hear women talk about guys with "commitment issues," and usually it just means that a particular guy wouldn't commit to them. Not to get all Mars and Venus on you, but we can't tell you how many guys we know who were commitment-phobes until they weren't. In other words, they could never "see" themselves with anyone…until they met The One. And we don't see how that's an "issue."Read More »from How Can I Tell If I Am a Commitment-Phobe?