By Ashley Mateo, SELF magazine
Dealing with your immediate family members can be tough no matter how close you are. So we called up Dr. Jane Greer, New York City marriage and family therapist and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship (Sourcebooks, 2010), to find out how to resolve conflicts and keep things copasetic at home. Keep reading for her expert tips!
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When things are good with my family, they're great. But our fights are brutal. How can I best deal with conflicts within my family?
First and foremost, turn down the heat in the argument. Keep in mind that they are your family and you love them; right now, you're disagreeing, so you want to do it in a way that will make room for problem-solving and working things out.
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You can say, 'You know what? We're too upset right now, things are too out of control, let's take a time out and
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By Jenny Everett, SELF magazineRead More »from What Every Woman Should Know About the Baby Blues
It feels like just about everyone we know just had a baby or is sporting an adorable baby bump. While this is generally happy news, according to a new study, one-third of women experience depression in the first 12 years of their kids' lives, and they're most ask risk during the 12 months following birth.
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Whether you're a mom-to-be or thinking of starting a family in the next few years, it's important to know how you can minimize the risk and extent of postpartum depression.
Postpartum depression is the result of a combination of hormonal and biological imbalances, which makes it difficult to avoid, according to Elizabeth Hopfenspirger, president of Jenny's Light, a nonprofit aimed at raising awareness about postpartum depression.
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That said, there are certain actions that can lessen the risk, including: Proper nutrition, adequate sleep, exercise, adequate support system, a
By Jenny Everett, SELF magazineRead More »from Why the Age of Your First Period Matters
When you're filling out the loads of paperwork and meeting with the doc during an initial visit, at some point this question will come up: "How old were you when you got your first period?"
It has always struck us as an odd question, but a recent study proves it's a crucial piece of your medical profile.
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In the study, researchers found that that getting your first period at age 10 or earlier can double your asthma risk. This news -- along with recent studies indicating that girls are getting their periods younger than ever (before age 13 as opposed to 16 or 17 a century ago) -- got us wondering exactly what other health risks are associated with getting your period earlier or later than the average girl.
"The reason physicians ask about the age of menarche is not because we are looking for a magic or right answer," says Caren Craig, MD, an OB/GYN at Mercy Medical Center in Baltimore, MD. "We are just trying
By Jenny Everett, SELF magazineRead More »from The Most Memorable Health Campaigns of All Time
Every now and then, a commercial really grabs our attention. Like this one, which aired during the Oscars this year. At first you think it's a typical fancy shmancy perfume ad, but it turns out to be a public service announcement about cervical cancer. Whoa.
This got us thinking about some of the most unforgettable PSAs and public health campaigns of all time. Based on an unofficial SELF poll, here they are:
1. Milk... It Does a Body Good! Why it got our attention: The commercial promised that milk would make us big and strong --what kid doesn't want that!? Turns out, milk can also do a body good by aiding weight loss. According to a new study published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, over two years, dieters who drank fat-free milk (nearly 2 cups a day) lost about 40 percent more weight than those who didn't.
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2. This Is Your Brain On Drugs. Any Questions? Why it got our
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By Jenny Everett, SELF magazineRead More »from Dating at the Gym: Good Idea, or Icky Meat Market?
Last year, rumors swirled that Liv Tyler was dating celeb trainer David Kirsch. There's also buzz that soccer stud Christian Ronaldo is dating (and possibly living and raising his newborn with) a female trainer he met at the gym. And of course, Madonna had her daughter, Lourdes, with her personal trainer.
But is it a good idea to follow their lead? Or is the gym just a meat market where guys look for causal flings? We asked Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. (a.k.a. Dr. Romance), for her 2 cents.
"The gym is a great place to meet guys -- but will they be the guy you want?" says Tessina, a psychotherapist and author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again.
"It's better to meet guys where something is happening that will show character, not just muscles. Focus on what activities are interesting to you, follow your passion, get together with groups that are accomplishing something, and you'll be able to see the character of the guys you're meeting much better than
By Jenny Everett, SELF magazineRead More »from Are Non-Stick Pans Messing With Your Health?
When it comes to health, the kitchen has got to be the most important room in the house. Which is exactly why the ongoing rumblings about possible carcinogens in non-stick pans have us ransacking our cabinets wondering what's good and what's evil.
To find out whether we're overreacting -- and exactly which pots and pans we should own -- we called on Alexandra Zissu, author of "The Conscious Kitchen."
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According to Zissu, many non-stick pans are made with perfluorooctanoic acid (PFOA), a likely carcinogen that leeches into our food when it's heated. Frighteningly, studies show that 9 out of 10 Americans have traces of PFOA in their bodies. Yikes, right?
While some argue that the levels are insignificant, and use of PFOAs is supposed to be phased out by 2015, Zissu recommends ditching your non-stick cookware in favor of these amazing non-toxic options. Seriously, they're all you need!
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By Jenny Everett, SELF magazineRead More »from The 10 Dirtiest Fruits and Veggies -- and How to Clean Them
Recently, one SELF staffer found flies in her celery -- blech! Another found worms in her corn -- double blech!
Then, we came across a study by the Environmental Working Group (EWG) listing the dirtiest fruits and vegetables, based on the fact that they're laced with pesticides and may be more difficult to clean.
Anyone else losing her appetite?
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Here are the 10 dirtiest items in the produce aisle -- and a few cleaning tips from culinary pros: Especially important to add to your cleaning priority list, according to the EWG: Celery, peaches, strawberries, apples, blueberries, sweet bell pepper, greens (spinach, kale, collards, etc.), grapes, potatoes and cherries.
No worries if your faves are on the list. Just be sure to give them an extra good cleaning using these expert tips:
1. Give them an ice water bath. Soak veggies such as grapes (spider webs, mold on the branches = yuck!), asparagus (those pesky
You might know Chris Evert as a tennis champion, but she's also the mom of three growing teenage boys. And while she retired in 1989, she still plays tennis almost every day. How does she find the energy? Here's one healthy secret: She drinks fat-free milk!Read More »from 4 Reasons Why Tennis Star Chris Evert Drinks Milk
Below are the top four reasons why Chris guzzles a glass every day, in her own words:
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Reason One - Calcium
As a woman, I understand that as I get older, I am at a higher risk for osteoporosis. According to the National Dairy Council, Americans are only consuming half the amount of dairy necessary for optimal health and bone development. Milk products are nutrient-packed foods, thanks to their unique combination of nine essential nutrients, including calcium.
Reason Two - Vitamin D
I live in Florida and spend a tremendous amount of time outdoors and in the sun. Even though the sun is a natural source of vitamin D, I make sure that my diet includes the necessary five servings of dairy
- Healthy SELF, SELF Magazine | Healthy Living – Wed, Sep 8, 2010 7:05 PM EDT
By Jenny Everett, SELF magazineRead More »from Boost Your Butt: 3 Ways to Dump the Junk in Your Trunk
Sure, this past weekend marked the unofficial end of summer (sniff, sniff) and soon our bikinis will go into hibernation, but we're not going to use that as an excuse to slack at the gym. Especially when it comes to our bum.
After all, we have every intention of pairing chunky knit sweaters with slim-fitting jeans (or, gasp, jeggings) this fall, so a tight, perky rear is going to be key.
To get our booty in shape for fall, we're going to try these moves from Peter Park, fitness contributor to Livestrong.com and Lance Armstrong's strength and conditioning coach. Thankfully, he didn't suggest we bike up a ginormous mountain...
Bulgarian Split Squat: Get in split-squat position with the top of your left foot elevated on a step or bench behind you. Bracing your core and keeping torso upright, lower yourself toward the ground, as far as possible, keeping front heel planted. Push back up to standing. That's one rep. Do 10 to 12, then switch legs. That's one
By Jenny Everett, SELF magazineRead More »from Why His 'Bromance' Is Healthy for Him (and You!)
If movies such as "Wedding Crashers," "I Love You, Man" and "Superbad" are any indication, we're in the midst of a "bromance" revolution.
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As far as we can tell, a guy might be involved in a "bromance" if he goes on true man-dates and openly admits to "loving" his pal. We're not talking about sporting events or getting together for beers at the local pub. More along the lines of day trips to a museum, movie nights or even dinner together at a nice restaurant sans the ladies. While these types of outings are the norm among women, until recently, they were somewhat taboo for straight men.
Here's why you should not only accept, but encourage your man's bromance -- and how to deal with it if it starts driving you crazy. "Bromances are all the rage because it is increasingly OK for men to express their feelings for other men," says Dr. Geoffrey Greif, a professor at the University of Maryland School of Social Work and