,For years, I believed that I wasn't all that manly.
Even though, biologically, I am indeed a man, I felt like I fell far short of the cultural paradigm of masculinity. I don't watch or play sports. I prefer yoga, pilates, and running. While I enjoy a good hike every now and then, my heart lies in the city, which I rarely like to leave. Mowing the lawn aggravates my allergies. I love cooking but hate grilling. I'm not great with tools or machinery, and I don't especially enjoy driving. Shopping, on the other hand, I can get into. Some of my closest friends are women, with whom I discuss my emotions, and books. Real men don't really talk like that, do they? Don't they just tell jokes and grunt?
So I thought, anyway.
I blame my background, as I often do, because these insecurities must have started somewhere. No one chooses to be anxious about their sense of self-worth, right? That toxicity is buried in childhood, before the ego's defense mechanisms have kicked in, when the Read More »from Gentleman? Ironman? Breadwinner? What it Means to Be a Man Today