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  • TV Free: How 4 Years Without Cable Has Changed Our Lives

    TV Free: How 4 Years Without Cable Has Changed Our LivesTV Free: How 4 Years Without Cable Has Changed Our LivesNearly four years ago, my husband and I decided to cancel our cable subscription.


    Or maybe it was satellite. I don't remember anymore.

    Whatever it was, the payment was a small fortune at the time for us. We were new parents, owned a home, and had two car payments. I found teaching nearly equaled the cost of putting our daughter in daycare, so I decided to stay at home.

    We had to make cuts, and the TV service was the first to go. The decision was fairly easy for me, having just read Susan Linn's book Consuming Kids. I was intrigued and a little shocked at what I'd read about the crazy way companies advertise to children.

    Beyond that, we realized many of our shows could be watched online. Netflix was just starting up; Hulu was as well - it didn't make sense to pay nearly $100 for TV service. Then we had to stop everything to watch a show or pay even more to record it for a time that worked for us. So off it went.

    The first few months (maybe even a year) it was hard not to

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  • Reflections on My Two-Year Fertility Journey

    Reflections on My Two-Year Fertility JourneyReflections on My Two-Year Fertility JourneyToday is my 36th birthday. Two years and two weeks ago, I had my first ever appointment at a fertility center. Tomorrow will be two years exactly that I've been writing for Babble.


    When we first decided we were going to start trying to have a family, there wasn't much information out there for us. Sure, all the medical info was available, but there were so few stories of how families like ours are formed, so few real words from other lesbian mothers - so I decided to blog about it.

    I reached out to a dear ex-coworker of mine who had tons of blogging experience. I wanted to know which site she used: WordPress, Tumblr, what? I told her my plans to share my story, and - without it ever once crossing my mind - she asked if I would want to share it on Babble. Of course she'd have to speak to the editors there, and there were no guarantees, but sure! Why wouldn't I want to?

    Babble decided to take me on. To be a platform for me to tell my story. I signed up with their Pregnancy

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  • How to Destroy Your Marriage in 8 Easy Steps

    How to Destroy Your Marriage in 8 Easy StepsHow to Destroy Your Marriage in 8 Easy StepsMarriage counselors will tell you how to keep your marriage together. If you want to know what destroys a marriage, the experts you want to consult do not necessarily have psychology degrees. Rather, they went to law school.


    Divorce lawyers see relationships at the bitter end. They see couples at their worst. So it makes sense to me that they must have a clear sense of what not to do if you want to keep your relationship happy. I asked family lawyer Lisa Helfend Meyer, who happens to also be a happily married parent of a special needs child, if she'd be willing to share what, in her opinion, are the top eight things that land couples in divorce court. This is what she told me.

    Destroy Your Marriage Tip #1:
    Be secretive. Pretend you're both in the CIA.

    "It's so easy these days to avoid a real conversation with your partner," says Meyer. After all, after a long day of work and diapers and traffic, sometimes the last thing you want is to actually talk with your mouth. Leaving

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  • Why There's More to Diet and Exercise Than Just Weight Loss

    Diet and Exercise: Why It's Not Just About Weight LossDiet and Exercise: Why It's Not Just About Weight Loss We've been hearing for years and years that losing weight is a matter of eating well and exercising. Weight loss, it seems, has been at the center of our national discussion on obesity and its health-related issues. Which is fine. Being overweight is often a problem on many levels, from physical health to emotional well-being. It's good that we recognize the importance of maintaining a healthy weight.


    But lately I've noticed a slight change in the discussion. I've heard (or rather, read) more and more talk about eating well as a means of improving health, including curing specific ailments like high blood pressure, and about exercise as the antidote to mental issues that we've grown accustomed to taking pills for. Eating well and exercising, it seems, are not just for weight loss - they're also good at combatting some of the illnesses we develop by (wait for it) … eating poorly and living sedentary lives. Things like high blood pressure, anxiety, stress, and depression.

    This is

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  • The Life Lessons I Learned from Boyz II Men

    Life Lessons I Learned from a Boyz II Men ConcertLife Lessons I Learned from a Boyz II Men ConcertMy husband and I were lucky enough to get free tickets to see Boyz II Men in Salt Lake City last week. Like any child of the '80s I know countless Boyz II Men songs, and I, like Stephanie Tanner, had a choreographed dance routine to "Motown Philly." But I mean, who didn't?

    And even though I love them, my reaction to the free tickets was probably similar to many of yours when you saw that this concert took place last week, "Boyz II Men is still touring?" When I posted a picture of myself right before the concert on Instagram, I got more than a couple, "What year is this?" type of comments. And that was pretty much my attitude too. I was excited for a reason to dress up and buy some hoop earrings, but that was about it.

    So needless to say, I wasn't really expecting the concert to be a life-altering event. But after the opening acts, the roadies set three stools on the empty stage. And I started to get really giddy.

    Then the Boyz played a reel of their accomplishments, listing the

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  • 7 of My Fears About Homeschooling

    Homeschooling FearsHomeschooling FearsMost of the time I'm fairly confident in our decision to homeschool our daughter. I loved to teach school, I love to read and learn, and I have a good idea of what it entails both now and as she gets older. We have a close knit relationship, and I can look down the road to seeing our relationship enhanced by this adventure.

    Maybe not at 16. But later.

    However, like any major decision we make for our children and families, I have nagging fears about homeschooling that surface with different parts of life.

    1. Is There Such a Thing as Too Much One-on-One Attention?

    I wonder if I'll be able to develop Bella into an independent learner as the years pass, since there will be nothing else to distract me from her. While a parent with a larger family might have to tell a child, "You'll have to figure it out, I'm with your sibling," that won't be the case for us. Although she does amazing while working and playing on her own now, I want to make sure it's a skill that continues.

    2.

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  • 5 Ways to Snag a Man Without Scaring Him Away

    5 Ways to Snag a Man Without Scaring Him Away5 Ways to Snag a Man Without Scaring Him AwayTimes have changed, ladies. We no longer have to wait by the sidelines while every other girl dances with a cute boy. We can ask him out to dance because it's no longer taboo to tell a man you're interested. It's 2014 and women are encouraged to be proactive. And so we are.

    But what about the myth that chasing a man reeks of desperation? It can if you do it the wrong way. As Rori Raye states in this YourTango post, "When we find ourselves falling for a man, it's normal to start feeling that if we don't show enough interest in him he might get the wrong message and drift away." That's when we act like boy-crazy teenagers.

    So, yes, show him you like him! Just make sure to do it right. Here are five ways to chase a man without scaring him away.

    1. Ask Him Out

    A man will notice you if you are bold enough to ask him out. It isn't desperate; it shows confidence. Besides, many women don't go this route so you will stand out from the crowd. What can you say? You're a woman who knows

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  • The Unbelievable Way One Woman Gave Birth

    The Unbelievable Way One Woman Gave BirthThe Unbelievable Way One Woman Gave BirthAs a labor and delivery nurse for the past three years, I've seen a lot of women give birth.

    Epidural-aided and natural, vaginally and via C-section, side-lying, on all fours or by the ever-popular legs splayed to the side in bed route -- I thought I had seen it all.

    And I have to confess that I am one of those weird people that happens to think that birth is the single most wondrous thing on earth. It took me months after training before I was able to assist in a delivery without having to embarrassingly wipe my tears away with my latex-gloved hand.

    But there is one birth that sticks out in my mind as the one that I will never forget -- the birth that stills seem almost unbelievable to me, the birth that moved me to tears I didn't even try to hide.

    They were a couple approaching their 40s, a husband and wife team who had thought they were "done," with three children already well past the diapers and crying-every-two-hours stage.

    It's a situation that many of us dread --

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  • Why I Stopped Using the Silent Treatment Against My Husband

    Why I Stopped Using the Silent Treatment Against My HusbandWhy I Stopped Using the Silent Treatment Against My HusbandWhen we first got married, it's quite possible that I was the worst wife on the planet.


    Granted, we were pretty young when we got married - barely 21 - but aside from the fact that we were young, I had a lot to learn.

    It may have stemmed from the dynamics in my family growing up, as all good love stories go, of course, but I never really learned how to properly "fight." In our house, it was a lot of hurt feelings, emotions brushed under the rug, cold shoulders, and then, finally, when the tension moved from "simmer" to "burn," a giant, violent explosion.

    No one is perfect of course, but looking back, I can see how unhealthy my version of dealing with conflict was.

    And of course, like a dowry from the blushing bride, I was only too happy to bring my conflict baggage straight into the sacred bond of our marriage.

    My favorite form of fighting in those turbulent early years?

    The silent treatment.

    I'm not sure what I thought was so brilliant about the use of the

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  • Beyonce, Feminism, and Keeping Her Clothes On: What She Can Learn from Madonna

    Beyonce, Feminism, and Keeping Her Clothes on: What She Can Learn from MadonnaBeyonce, Feminism, and Keeping Her Clothes on: What She Can Learn from MadonnaBeyonce is on the cover of this month's Out magazine. Despite the fact that she is topless and wearing a wig, I couldn't help but notice that she's reminding me a lot of Madonna from the early '90s these days. I'm not just talking about her appearance, but the path she is taking in her career, too.

    In her Marilyn Monroe-inspired wig, Beyonce talks to Out magazine about how easy it can be to be sexy and classy at the same time, explaining: "There is unbelievable power in ownership, and women should own their sexuality. You can be a businesswoman, a mother, an artist, and a feminist - whatever you want to be - and still be a sexual being. It's not mutually exclusive."

    Sound familiar? Well it should because these are the same words that were preached to us over 20 years ago when Madonna was still at her reign on top of the Billboard charts. Although Madonna was more of a straight shooter when it came to owning her risqué image back then (she was once quoted as saying, "Can a body be a

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