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  • Dear Son: I Hope You Fail

    Dear Son: I Hope You FailDear Son: I Hope You FailDear son,


    Looking at you - my 5-year-old boy, months away from stepping into your kindergarten class - I'm overwhelmed with wishes and hopes for your future. As any mother is. I hope you make friends in a leadership-type way, rather than being herded along against your better judgment. I hope you retain this incredible excitement toward learning new things. I hope you find something that sparks a passion inside of you, and I hope that you believe in yourself enough to pursue what makes you happy.

    I also hope you fail.

    I hope you experience moments of struggle.

    I hope you feel disappointment and live through difficult times.

    Now that might be jarring to read, as it's hard to write - to feel. I have this primal urge to throw my arms around you as a shield from anyone or anything that might knock you down. Anything that might hurt you. You're my baby.

    But I'm also your mother.

    My goal is to help you develop into a good, empathetic, productive person who brings more

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  • My Pregnant Body — from Loathing to Acceptance

    My Pregnant Body — From Loathing to AcceptanceMy Pregnant Body — From Loathing to AcceptanceI am not a tiny pregnant lady - it's just a fact.


    Those women who are only pregnant in their bellies … you know, the kind who, even with big bellies, perfectly round like a basketball, are still in possession of lovely, lithe limbs and a chin with a visible jawline? Yeah, that's so not me. When I am pregnant, I'm pregnant everywhere. My arms look pregnant, my thighs lose whatever semblance of a "gap" they ever had, my bum gets a bit squishy and my jawline slowly disappears over the course of nine months.

    During my last pregnancy, I had a really difficult time with this. I remember feeling like my body was hijacked and the weight gain felt totally random and uncontrollable. I gained nothing during the first 18 weeks of my pregnancy despite a lack of morning sickness - and then, suddenly, without changing my eating or workout habits, I gained 20 pounds in a two-week span. It was insane. After that, I pretty much just gave up. It felt out of my control, so I figured why bother? I

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  • Censoring Violence in Animation: Have We Taken One Step Forward or Two Steps Back?

    Censoring Violence in Animation: Have We Taken One Step Forward or Two Steps Back?Censoring Violence in Animation: Have We Taken One Step Forward or Two Steps Back?About a week ago, a good friend and I took our children to go see Frozen once again for the sing-along version of the movie. While both of us (and our children too, of course) absolutely love the film, I didn't give much thought to the Disney short Get a Horse!, which preceded it. While it's an eye-popping 3D-flick that has won critics over with rave reviews, my friend wasn't keen on it.

    "Don't you think it's very violent?" she asked me while we were sitting in the cinema with our popcorn and our children beside us, glued to the big screen. She explained that she didn't like the kidnapping of Minnie Mouse, the violent outbursts, and the cat-and-mouse nature of the film.

    I hadn't really given Get a Horse! much thought since first seeing it back in November, other than realizing that Mickey and Minnie's frenemy Pete seemed to have really mellowed down since his heyday in late 1920′s animation. In comparison, the Pete we see today in Disney Junior's Mickey Mouse Clubhouse seems very

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  • 8 People You Hate when You’re Trying to Get Pregnant

    10 People You Hate When You're Trying to Get Pregnant10 People You Hate When You're Trying to Get PregnantNext month marks two years since I started my journey to motherhood. It's not an anniversary I'm eager to celebrate. I thought, for sure, I'd be gearing up to celebrate a first birthday by this time, and not a "still no baby" post.


    If you've followed my story from the beginning, you know that I keep a positive attitude - about 99 percent of the time. I think one of the reasons I'm able to stay so upbeat through this all is because I allow myself to feel the crappy days, the defeated moods. But sometimes, the day just gets you.

    I write this today with a light heart, and I very loosely use the word hate. I actually don't hate anyone. But, more times than one, I've found myself rolling my eyes - or totally cringing - at these 8 types of people you learn to hate when you're trying to get pregnant. Does this sound familiar to anyone else?

    1. Women With Four or More Kids
    A single child is understandable. Two makes sense. Three is actually quite nice. But four? Or more? Today?

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  • Now that We’re Married, Why Can't We Date?

    Now that We're Married, Why Can't We Date?Now that We're Married, Why Can't We Date?One of the most commonly-relayed pieces of advice I've heard about nurturing a marriage is for the married couple to go on regular dates with each other. Sounds good. I would buy that advice in a heartbeat -- if I could afford it. I have nothing but nostalgia for the days when my wife and I were cheap dates.

    Before Addie was born, Casey and I went on dates regularly together. In fact, our finances back then would indicate that we went on too many dates together, but we both loved being out together. Although Addie's birth threw a bit of wrench in our consistent dating life, it still wasn't too difficult to drop Addie off with some relatives for an evening or for a day so we could get out and do something alone as a married couple. Back then we didn't realize how fortunate we were to have family living so close who wanted to spend time with Addie. Then we moved to Indiana, where our closest relative lives a nice 15 hour drive away.

    Not having family nearby has made it difficult to

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  • Study Reveals New Dads Have Trouble in the Bedroom, Too

    Guess What? New Dads Have Trouble in the Bedroom, TooGuess What? New Dads Have Trouble in the Bedroom, TooSo when I hear new moms complain about that ever-present struggle of getting their sexy back after baby, I can't help but sympathize.

    After three babies and currently growing my fourth (why does that sound so weird, even if it's the truth?), I know that there will come a period during my pregnancy when the "Don't touch me" stage will begin, only to morph into the "Are you kidding me?!" stage after I pop that kid out.

    I am just not someone who bounces back well after a baby, neither in the body department, nor, apparently, in the bedroom department.

    And while I'm (mostly) OK with that, because I (mostly) know I'll get there eventually and I have a (mostly) wonderful, patient, and understanding husband, I can't help but feel a teensy bit of guilt over my lack of enthusiasm in the romance department. I definitely worry if I'm "normal" or if our marriage will suffer, or if heaven forbid, there's something wrong with me.

    But luckily for me, a recent study shows that it's not just

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  • Why You Shouldn't Be Uncomfortable Around Me and My Kid with Special Needs

    Why You Shouldn't Be Uncomfortable Around Me and My Kid with Special NeedsWhy You Shouldn't Be Uncomfortable Around Me and My Kid with Special Needs"Max is getting quite the beer belly!" I joked to a neighbor the other day. We were talking about how much our boys had grown. Max, 11, has gone through a major growth spurt this past year, partly induced by his love for mac 'n cheese. "The pediatrician told me that because of the cerebral palsy, the muscles in his stomach are a little slack so it sticks out a bit more," I said, matter-of-factly.

    [Awkward silence.]

    In an instant, I knew I had crossed a line. In the eyes of the other mom, bringing up Max's CP -- even though I wasn't in the least bit bemoaning it -- had shifted the conversation from congenial to serious.

    "Anyway, I have to reduce his portions, has a doctor ever suggested that to you about his kids?" I asked, steering things back to familiar mom chitchat territory.

    It's happened before, this awkwardness and flummoxed looks on other mothers' faces when I mention Max's cerebral palsy. Not close friends, but people who don't know us that well. Me, I never think

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  • New Survey Shows 40 Percent of Mothers Claim Alcohol Helps Them Parent

    New Survey Shows 40 Percent of Mothers Claim Alcohol Helps Them ParentNew Survey Shows 40 Percent of Mothers Claim Alcohol Helps Them ParentPerhaps this comes as no surprise to you. We've all heard the jokes about mommy-juice, mommy's little helper(s) and the general lackadaisical attitude (except when it comes to the consumption of) that many take when it comes to drinking and motherhood. I consider myself a part of that tribe. I make the jokes too. I in fact, can go so far as to admit that I do INDEED enjoy a glass of wine or a beer (or two!!!), on a weeknight, no less!

    Is there a relation between the stress brought on in my day-to-day mothering and how much alcohol I consume? Does having a glass of wine at the end of a long day help melt away the anxiety and the tension creased up in my neck from flinching and cringing after countless whining sessions and whatever else my darling yet exasperating toddlers toss my way?

    Sure it does.

    I'd be lying if I said it (alcohol) didn't (help).

    There is a striking difference I think, amongst those who use alcohol as a crutch with alarming frequency and supply, and those

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  • Hilarious! 4-Year-Old Has Premature Midlife Crisis Over Getting Older


    I feel Paislee Harper's pain.


    The little girl from Kentucky recently turned 4, and she just didn't want to do it. The prospect of a new car seat, bicycle, or big-kid stuff couldn't entice her to feel happy about getting older. When she was 3, she got her ears pierced and went to Disney World. How do you top that?

    I cried when my older daughter turned 4. At 3, she was still kind of baby-ish, but in a good way. She retained a need for me in a primal way. I begged her not to turn 4. Pleaded with her. Asked nicely and reasoned with her calmly. Tried bribing her. But she would have none of it. She did promise for a moment to stay 3 forever, but then her birthday hit, and she was all, "I don't know what you're talking about. I am so a 4-year-old now. Later, Mommy!" Unlike Paislee, my daughter was tragically lured by the shiny prospects of Pre-K.

    Related: 7 things you should never say to your toddler

    Paislee's mom interviewed her on camera with her twin brother, Hudson, on the

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  • Brad Pitt’s Production Company to Make Film on Infamous Steubenville Rape Case

    Brad Pitt's Production Company to Make Film on Infamous Steubenville Rape CaseBrad Pitt's Production Company to Make Film on Infamous Steubenville Rape Case There aren't many people who haven't heard of the Steubenville case. Now it seems that Brad Pitt himself has taken notice.


    According to Hollywood's insider blog, The Tracking Board, Pitt's company Plan B has bought the rights to a Rolling Stone feature "Anonymous vs. Steubenville," which covers the case but mainly focuses on one man named Deric Lostutter: a hacktivist and member of Anonymous (an online vigilante group).

    In case you missed the case which dominated the headlines throughout 2013 - it concerned the rape of a 16-year-old girl by two high school football players and the subsequent alleged cover-up that took place involving many members of the small community. The case came to Lostutter's attention, and he began to expose the true story of what happened in Steubenville - offering justice for the victim and garnering attention for the victim's plight. After the attack on the 16-year-old "Jane Doe," there had been images and discussion of what happened to her on

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