Blog Posts by Smitten, Glamour Magazine

  • Let Adam Levine's Worst Date Ever Be a Lesson to Us All

    by Gena Kaufman

    John Aquino/WWDJohn Aquino/WWDWe all have a worst-date story. Even really good-looking guys who are now engaged to stunning models.


    Here's Adam Levine's, as shared with Jay Leno on The Tonight Show.

    Well, I guess we now know why Adam once said his go-to date was McDonald's!

    I suppose it's not great manners to order allllll the things at a pricey restaurant on a date (or to be kind of snooty and pretentious about wine*), but frankly, I can't decide whether I feel judgmental about that woman's decision to order lots of desserts and espressos, or just kind of jealous. Can someone please bring me some dessert?

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    *Related: Can we all agree to abandon the restaurant ritual of making one person taste the win, and just admit that none of us has any idea what it's supposed to taste like anyway? It would make all dinner dates 27 percent less awkward.

    What's your worst date story? What do you think of Adam's?

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  • Two Colors You Might Want to Avoid Wearing on First Dates

    by Gena Kaufman

    Getty ImagesGetty ImagesIt's been hammered into our heads approximately a grillion times that men are attracted to red, so it's unsurprising that in a recent British survey, men confirmed that it's the best color to wear on a date.

    But maybe the color that's most likely to turn a guy off will surprise you...

    ...Yellow! (Somehow, I feel that they would all change their answer if Blake Lively showed up to their date wearing this dress.) In addition to hating sunny--or OK, mustard-y--yellow happiness (I love yellow, you guys), men were also not so into brown.

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    For our part, women said they didn't enjoy yellow or pink on a man.


    The most shocking part of this survey, in my opinion? How many men actually remembered the color his significant other wore the first time he met her: 92 percent! Evidently your outfit really makes an impression on him, since in addition to practically every guy remembering the shade, another 27 percent

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  • Is the Concept of "You Complete Me" Romantic -- or Unhealthy?

    by Marissa Gold


    Getty ImagesGetty Images Someone forwarded me an article by Akirah Robinson titled "Why I Told 150 Wedding Guests That My Husband Does Not Complete Me." It's a great article, and you should go read it, and here's the gist of it:

    "As great as he is, Dan does not complete me. He certainly makes life funnier. Busier. Happier. And tastier. (Dan's a chef.) But he does not complete me. And I do not complete him. Our lives are so much bigger than each other."

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    I have to admit, it sounds so liberating and rational, I want to agree with it. And part of me does. Of course, my inner feminist nods. Of course another person can't make you feel complete. But my inner romantic really hesitates to agree. I mean, I hate to reference Jerry Maguire (and you knew it was coming, didn't you?), but if a man you loved told you that you complete him, wouldn't you be flattered? And let's be honest: most of us, no matter how great and full our lives

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  • Just in Time for Halloween, You Can Find a Date with a Ghost!

    by Gena Kaufman


    Kyle EricksenKyle Ericksen There are Halloween-appropriate dates, and then, there's this: GhostSingles.com.

    Here's part of their spiel:
    Finally, a dating site for singles who know how to get a life! Well, an afterlife. OK, maybe some sort of in-between, netherworld, ethereal existence. But if you're looking for love, and you're dead, Ghost Singles is the site for you. Dozens* of singles have already joined, and the singles' chat is available 24/7 for your enjoyment. This is a free dating site, if you qualify, so don't hesitate! Join today!

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    They later go on to clarify that by dozens, they mean precisely one dozen. Oh, and sorry to all living humans, zombies, and vampires: You're not welcome in the world of ghostly dating. And additionally, the website is quite up front that no marriages have ever resulted from a match on the site, but to be fair, "Have you ever tried getting a priest to solemnify your unholy union?"

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  • Taylor Swift on Relationships: 6 Signs It’s Time to Walk Away

    by Gena Kaufman


    Steve Eichner/WWDIn a recent interview, Taylor Swift is talking about how she's matured in relationships. "One thing I've learned that I'm proud of--drumroll please--is when to walk away. I've had some short relationships because I know when to do that."

    Sadly, she didn't share her knowledge for when to walk away, but here are a few signs we think indicate it's time to get out of there:

    You don't feel good about yourself around him. A partner who challenges you can be a good thing, but there's a difference between feeling inspired to be a better you, and feeling inadequate, and that can be hard to spot at first. But if the guy is making you feel insecure, get out now.

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    You don't see a future with him. You don't have to be ready to tie the knot this moment, but if you honestly can't ever picture yourself with him in the long-term, you need to end it (or at least make sure you're both on the same page about the expiration date).

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  • Are You the Type to Be Attracted to Opposites or to People like You? Here's How to Tell

    by Gena Kaufman


    CN Digital StudioEver wonder why some people seem to date people who are an awful lot like them, while others go for their total opposites? We don't all follow the same pattern, and there's some science behind why.

    According to brain anthropologist Helen Fisher, whether or not you're drawn to people like you or completely the opposite depends on your brain type and which chemicals are dominant in your system. Obviously, most of us don't know if we have higher levels of serotonin or dopamine (or honestly, what those words even mean), but there are personality traits associated with each time that you might recognize. Here's how to tell:

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    You probably seek out your own kind if:

    * You have an active dopamine system, meaning you are reward-driven, impulsive, and easily bored.

    * You have a seratonin-dominant system, meaning you're more risk averse and sociable, tend to follow rules, and are habit-driven.

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  • Your Likelihood of a Happy Marriage May Depend on Your Genes

    by Gena Kaufman


    Marriage success: hard work AND good genes? (Getty Images)Marriage success: hard work AND good genes? (Getty Images) Do you ever feel like relationships are just harder for you than they are for other people? I do sometimes, but probably I'm just being a drama queen. However, thanks to this new study, I'm totally gonna blame it on my genetics from now on.

    Researchers studying 150 couples over a 20-year period have found a gene that predicts relationship success. More specifically, the gene variant predicts how much a person lets emotions affect their relationships. Those with two short alleles (Alleles? I just had a traumatic flashback to science class) tend to judge their relationships by their emotional swings. Meaning, if they're experiencing a negative emotion in their life, they rate their relationship unfavorably, but if they're having positive life experiences, they rate their relationship as successful. On the other hand, people with long alleles felt steady relationship fulfillment regardless of their emotions.

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  • Uh-Oh, Are You Driving Your Friends Away with Your Constant Talk of Relationship Problems?

    by Gena Kaufman


    Evan Sklar Evan Sklar When it comes to helping a friend going through a breakup, there is inevitably a point where we all cross from "Oh sweetie, tell me all about it," to "Good God, if you don't stop talking about this my ears are going to start bleeding." Heaven knows I've been on both sides of the problem, as the patience-tested listener and as the obsessed mess who knows she needs to let it go but just can't.

    There's no rule for when patience runs out, but one thing is clear: For the majority of us, it eventually does. According to Pearl.com, 64 percent of 18- to 34-year-olds have ditched a friend who constantly talks about their relationship problems. Ouch. (Interestingly, women and Southerners were just slightly more likely to do the ditching!)

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    In my experience, here are some signs you might want to watch for if you're worried you're becoming That Person:

    * You know you've repeated the story you're currently lamenting at least

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  • "No Romantic Relationships" and 4 Other Strange Sentences for Criminals

    by Gena Kaufman


    Romulo YanesRomulo Yanes The former lawyer in me was totally intrigued by this story I read this morning involving a very unusual combination of a judge's sentence in court and a defendant's love life. It's not often I get to combine my former and current jobs, you guys! Here's what I read about today:

    Sentenced to: Take a break from dating
    A Nebraska judge doled out an unusual sentence for a man who was part of an attempted burglary, but hesitated at the last minute and didn't go forward with it. Because the judge deemed the defendant had a "moral compass," he sentenced him to a fee and probation--and part of the terms of probation is a ban on romantic relationships. The judge, like everyone giving post-breakup advice, actually said, "You need to focus on you."

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  • The 12 Types of Crushes Every Girl Will Have

    by Gena Kaufman


    CN Digital StudioCN Digital StudioThere are at least 12 types of guys that every girl will probably get butterflies in her stomach for at least once in her life. They are:

    1. The childhood crush: The guy you screamed "Cooties!" at in the third grade and "went out" with in the fifth for two weeks. It broke your heart a little when you discovered on Facebook that he got married, even though you haven't spoken to him in ten years and he's not even that cute anymore.

    2. The celeb crush: The guy whose poster hung above your twin-sized bed for five years, and you were legitimately certain you'd marry him by the end of every Tiger Beat article. You're so glad the Internet wasn't around when you were thirteen because you might have been one of those crazy pre-teens making Twitter death threats against his girlfriend.

    3. The work crush: The guy you wouldn't normally be into, but you sit at the cubicle next to him nine hours a day, five days a week, so you're basically forced to develop a smidge of feelings

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